ok so theres four of us...and were all really close and everything, but one of us, is considered to be very cheap, she has this credit card thing, and she always says how she has no money on it, which who knows if shes lying, she neverr has anyyy cash on her, and doesnt even hesitate to pay for or help out one of us, when we dont have money, its not like we dont like her, but its preattyy annoying, to have a cheap friend. also when we all go out o eat, she says she cnat pay the tip or tax cuz she has a credit card, and only ends up paying for EXACTLY what she ordered maybe even less. what do we do?
2006-11-30 17:55:50 · 13 answers · asked by buddah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
MAJOR IRRITATION.
We have a group of gals and of course one, she has ton's of money and always bragging about it. Yet, when we would go out for meals she would put in some cash and say she paid enough but it was always short. She never put in ENOUGH. It was usually because she drank wine and I don't think she calculated the drinks in... or maybe it was like your friend, tax and tip... whatever the case, the beyotch always came up short. We would call her on it and let her know she had to put in more, but she would play all ditzy........
It's so annoying. We don't hang out with her any more for other reasons, but it's funny because the rest of us still go out together as a group and the money always works out fine. We joke about how it was never FINE when so and so was with us.
In your friends case..........if it is a money issue - I don't mind chipping in ON OCCASION to help her out. However, I feel if she can't afford tax and tip, she probably shouldn't be going out to eat in restaurants in the first place.
Also, it makes me so mad that your friend just ASSUMES that you guys wll cover it time and time again.
Next time, I would just let everyone put in their share FIRST and she has to pay the difference.
Good luck.......
2006-11-30 18:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as she is paying for what is her you should let her be.... dont let money get in the way of friendship...
if shes truely a friend she will be there for you when you need her the most... but just because she doesnt have a couple dollars on her doesnt mean shes not a friend... if you are going to judge her because of money maybe you should take a step back and look at yourself... money isnt everything, its just an object
shes not dicking you guys over is she? she pays for what she has too... maybe she is tight on money, maybe she is saving up for something... who knows, if she hasnt mentioned why she is like that leave it, if she is like that for no reason, let it be its who she is...
2006-11-30 18:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by eoj8008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't call her a friend if you cant say you like her!
maybe she really has no money, and that's no reason to hate her, but if she does and hides it from her friends, that means she doesn't care about you and the others, but only about her self!
so tell her how you feel and ask her if she needs help!
if things go wrong then just tell her that she is not a true friend
2006-11-30 19:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by denise_evert17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be pinching pennies for a truly good reason and has a strong sense of privacy about it. Or she could be the type who dumps the sugar bowl to get a cup of soup from the salad bar. There is no way to tell. Either you like her or you don't. Take people at face value.
Walk a mile in her shoes before you get angry.
2006-11-30 18:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? pita ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is really is your friend why not accept her,if you really wanted to know about the credit card thing, ask her directly or you are still in doubt ask her mom,dad or her bf or better yet go to the credit card company and ask them.
2006-11-30 19:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by migumi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she really has no money.
don't think she does
it's no biggie if someone's trying to save her money.
if it's bothering you that much, that don't hang out with her
personally i never cary cash on me either
what's a person to do except pay for exactly what she ordered.
i really think you guys should take her word for it that she' can pay
what you could do? if you still want to include her in your activities, suggest things that don't cost as much. rent a movie instead of going to one. eat in not out. there are plenty to do to save money.
2006-11-30 18:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably has a debit card meaning it is linked to her checking account and there is nothing in the checking account. Debit cards look like credit cards but the money has to be in the account in order to use it.
2006-11-30 18:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely have extra efficient theory? How about you tell her immediately up what your direct emotions are of what you quite imagine of her and be conscious if she nonetheless needs to bypass out with you? I doubt she'll move slowly on her palms and knees attempting to get you imagine to love her. so that you may want to as well positioned your funds decrease back contained in the business company for yet another one among your moist days.
2016-11-28 03:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't use credit for restaurants, but i thought you can add a tip on your card?
anyway, my friends say if you don't pay you don't eat
2006-11-30 20:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very fortunate to have three or four friends. Some people have nobody. So what if she isn't perfect, who is?
2006-11-30 20:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by autumn leaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋