What should I do My husband is leaving me?

Question

My husband is in the miltary and we recently got married. We been married 5 months together for about 3 years. He's stationed over seas and im stuck here. Recently he called and told me he had kissed another girl. I told him that he was wrong and not to see her. He agreed. Then he called again and said he wanted a divorce. I asked why and he ssaid it was b/c he coulod'nt give me 100% in the relationship, and that he was't sure that it was gonna work from the beggining so he gave it a shot.He keeps making up excuses of why he wants one. I did everything i could to help the divorcce. I even as low as ssaying he could see her. But nothing. So my husband is leaving me and im in the united states with nothing b/c he's not sending money. what should i do?

Answer 1

Go to the CO of his unit and let them know he's not sending you money first. You're entilted to it and they have to make sure your getting it.

Answer 2

Some people are just not temperamentally suited to marriage at all, but try to force themselves into it because of family/societal expectations. Some people get married for the wrong reasons, and the marriage is doomed from the start. Some people misjudge the person they marry, and find that after the "buzz" wears off, this is not the person they want to spend their life with. Some people misjudge themselves, and with the best of intentions find that after learning some things about themselves, they are the wrong partner for the person they have married. Some people marry and are happy for a time, but find that as they mature and grow they've grown in different directions and they are no longer good for each other. Some people find that after a trauma or severe stress of some kind (death of a child, birth of a child with disabilities, illness/injury to themselves or spouse, career problem/change, financial setback), they just can't continue in the marriage. Some people find that problems that they thought they could solve when they got married are not solvable (in-law problems, alcohol or drug problems, mental illness, etc.) There are lots of reasons why husbands leave their wives and wives leave their husbands that have nothing to do with being bad people or with failure. Sometimes, with the best will in the world, people make mistakes or bad things happen and marriages don't work out.

Answer 3

Im so sorry to hear about the situation you are in. Right now u need to stand your ground. If he wants the Divorce then give it to him(im sure while everything is being processed he will reconsider) I was in same situation and my husband wanted a divorce and i went along with it and come to find out he then didnt sign papers. Every situation is different, but dont let him belittle u or u bow down to his needs because at the end its u whose going to suffer the hurt and pain. Like i said stand your ground, keep urself busy as much as possible, pray, ask god for guidance and u will see the light of things as time goes by... I feel ur sorrow and hope u think thing through because we women deserve respect from our loved ones.

Answer 4

I would suggest, first, you should go to church and pray..this will help you feel better emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Second, talk to a best friend or a close relative for an advice about divorce or legal matters. 3rd, go on a vacation, see an old friend, get a new hobby, go to the gym, read inspirational books, join a cooking class, yoga, basically make yourself busy and this will help you forget about him for a while. I know it sound silly but instead of feeling bad and lonely..this is the time for you to rethink about your future. Don't let anyone make you feel inferior or insecure about yourself. Don't let anyone ever take advantage of you. Always remember, what goes around, comes around. "Karma" is what's waiting for him so don't even sweat it! I hope that helps. Good luck and I know you can handle this.

Answer 5

I am so sorry you are stuck in this situation. However, you really don't need an excuse from someone who will never tell you the reason WHY!!! Please don't sit around and wait for someone who, very clearly, does not deserve YOU. Take a deep breath, go pamper yourself (new wardrobe, hairstyle, pedicure etc.) and start to put yourself on a pedistle (hope i spelled that right). Only then will other people view you the way you view yourself....beautiful, outgoing, loveable and last but not least....CONFIDENT. Good luck to you and hold your head up.

Answer 6

I would have to say........this is not uncommon?
Now I fully understand your position, and all I can say to you is....better know now, than later with kids running around?

It sounds like to me....he has made his mind up!....you will have to maybe ask the military, if they have someone who can talk to you....As his wife, until the divorce is thru....you may be able to get some allowance?..now I'm not sure?...but heck! it's worth the try...Until you can re-group, and see what the future can give you.You do need friends and family or even one! person, to help you thru this....I really feel for you!.......and I am so sorry, after five months of being married, to him.....If this man can't give you, 100% well.....your better without him.....really.....

Answer 7

Have sex with three men at the same time, take lots of pictures, put them on the Internet, and make sure all of your husbands military friends see them. Then ask for a divorce and tell him you couldn't give 100% in the relationship either.

Answer 8

Well sweetheart, he doesn't love you. You have to push past emotion, and realize that. He doesn't love you. Why would you want to be with a man that doesn't love you? He never will. He has already slept with her, and you know it. What's more, he's a real @sshole that you do not need. Someone will love you, you just havent found him yet. It's only going to take time. Let him go, greave for a while, then carefully look for the right man. Put your faith in Christ, you'll be fine.

Answer 9

I can see you are getting a lot of answers. everybody has their own opiniun of how to live and love. follow your heart....forgiveness is good thing...giving up is not easy to do....
married just 5 months, you wont get much from his pay check eventhough you divorce him. take care of yourself, you will find someone one day better than him. He must be young. I have been there 3 times. forgive and forget him. start a new life. I 've just got married 2 months ago @ my 60's am happy .
God bless you.

Answer 10

hey lady, if i were you i started to move. dont just sit there and
focus yourself to the problem, instead find a job, dont wait
for the financial support coming from your husband.
You must be strong to face the reality. this is not the end of the
end of the world for you, hence this is the beginning of good life.

common baby theres a lot of guys everywhere. Cheer up dont
loose hope find another who will be match for you.

Goodluck!

Answer 11

As to the Big D well you will end up with it in the long run but as to the money issue, The military has rules and regulations for such cases.
Check with the branch he's in and see what can be done.