she screwed around on him and my husband and i aren't relly getting along
2006-11-30 17:04:16 · 23 answers · asked by indiana_ddp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my marriage has been on the rocks for a long while now so it not like this just happened i have never been unfaithful
2006-11-30 17:06:12 · update #1
If you want to see other people you need to let your husband know. I think it's wrong because if you wanted to see other people you shouldn't have gotten married. Getting married is a committment. If you aren't getting along and you want to screw around tell him that you want a separation or a divorce. Cardinal rule is that you do not mess around with exes of frineds. It sounds like you have terrible boundaries.
2006-11-30 17:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Their are to many men on this earth for you to screw around with your friends ex. Personally I think it is disgusting! Even if she screwed around on him that has nothing to do with you. Not to be mean are anything, but YOUR MARRIED! Just because your not getting alone with your husband right now does not mean you guys don't love each other. Give it some time and make sure that's really what you want to do. Do you think this guy is worth hurting your friend and your husband.
2006-12-01 01:11:41 · answer #2 · answered by yonji 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget the rule. True love however comes, take it. I am sorry to this day when I fell in love with one of my friend's girlfriend. I played polite and didn't want to hurt my friend so I kept low profile. I didn't make any initiative even though she gave me tons of hints, looks and talk that it's obvious that she felt the same for me. After marrying someone else for almost 30 years, I still long for her and wonder if I just followed my feelings and and took the risk and ended marrying her instead,I'll be a happier man.
2006-12-01 01:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by lightpulse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indiana: You are really asking for it, getting involved in a "rebound" relationship like you are contemplating to do. Why don't you try marriage counselling first to patch up the rift with your husband. Your friend had no business "side-stepping it" with her husband. For you to chase him would result in sure heart break for YOU in the long run. You stand to lose your husband, friend and your friend's husband in the long run. Things seldom are what they appear to be ... so, do the proper thing and go to work on your marriage - this has the BEST chance for salvaging ! Good luck to you !!!
2006-12-01 01:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u kidding ?..........just cause u & your husband "aren't really getting along"........dose not mean you can sleep with other people .....what if your husband did the same thing ?.......what if every one did that ?......why even bother getting married ?..........................& About your friend , whats more important to u attraction or friendship?.........you never "get it on" with a friends EX no matter how much she screwed around on him....... thats just the rules oh even if your friend says its cool u still dont go there...it always makes things weird
2006-12-01 01:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by tina a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, ........ do not do anything with him!!! hello!! you are married! you took a vow... so if u do not want to save your marriage, then go and get a divorce...because if you cheat you will always be a cheater and once the newness of this new relationship wears off, then that too will be old and you wont have love and you wont have lust and you will be left with a bad name........also, you dont ever ever ever mess around with a friends bf or husband....even if they have broken up! and it doesnt matter if she screwed around on him...she is your friend....dont even go there or think about it!
shame on you!
2006-12-01 01:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by derek s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um r u 4gettin bout ur husband and those little things called vows. If u weren't married then I'd say just go for it but seriously thats not rite u can't cheat on ur husband he could still love u and ther still could be sumthin there but u just can't cheat on him because ur attracted 2 sum1 else.
2006-12-01 01:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u value ur friendship...don't do it! it's not worth it...remember this decision not only affects u...it will affect ur husband and ur friend...try to work out ur marriage (unless he's abusive)...until u've exhausted all possibilities then u shouldn't cause any more damage...when u have tried hard enough, then move on, but it shouldn't be with ur friend's ex.
2006-12-01 01:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you want to screw around on yours .You are just like your friend ! And if the guy is smart he will see it .
Get divorced be for you play around .
2006-12-01 01:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure, go for it, Just remember that while he is "tapping that ***" that the Lord will be right there watching you break the HOLY vows of marriage that you made before Him. Just something to think about while you are screaming "OH GOD!" with your fake orgasam.
2006-12-01 01:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. SmartyPants 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋