When someone dies...?

Question

are we really mourning for them, or are we mourning for ourselves because we'll never see them again on while on this earth.

Answer 1

both.

Answer 2

I think that it's a little of both. We mourn for the things that they'll never have the chance to do(especially when they die young), sometimes for the way they died. We mourn for ourselves, because we are left here without them, and often for everything we wish that we could share with them.

Answer 3

I have been to many many funerals, the ones that I mourn for the most of the people that question it. And the hurt I see in others faces. To me if the person has had a fullfilling life it seems to be more of a celebration of that persons life, and a relief to see that they are out of pain, if they suffered. The hardest thing to witness is the death of a young person. To see the parents grief and to wonder why so young?

Answer 4

I think it can be one of the other or both. When my mom died, I mourned for both of us. Because I was watching her die of cancer I mourned for her pain, her suffering, there was nothing I could have done to help her. I also mourned for me, because I could never see her again. When my friend died, I mourned for him, because he died so young, so full of life and promise. When my dog died, I mourned for me, because he was not only a friend, but like a child to me, I raised him. Later, I have come to the conclusion that we should not mourn at all, for death is a natural part of life and we should not mourn for those who transform into the next life.

Answer 5

Mourning the loss of them and for ourselves. I know that's a fence sitter answer.

Mostly we are mourning for ourselves because of the loss of the deseased.

I hope that makes sense.

Answer 6

Both, but for minorities in Mondulkiri, a province in Cambodia, some still follow the primitive tradition by having party rarther than mourn when someone dies. This is the belief that when someone dies, that one is out of difficulties.

Answer 7

Speaking for myself and if I am perfectly honest, I think a bit of both, I lost my mum and husband within 2 months,I mourned them because they both suffered terribly, and the fact my husband didn't live to see all his grandchildren(our first was just 2 months old) then I realised I was totally on my own for the first time in my life, no mum to turn to, no loving hugs from my husband, well it took 7 years to accept , happily I am a better person for the grief I endured on behalf of my losses, and no one could be prouder of her husband and mother than me.

Answer 8

Ya know, I think both, maybe also, were thinking of regrets, that we didnt say everything we needed to say, that you held back from them in some way, and thats a reason we may mourn not seeing them again, the chances to say everything we wanted had past.

Answer 9

That depends, if the person knew they were dying and had time to prepare, perhaps it is mostly about our feeling of loss. If it was sudden it is probably both, our sorrow of losing them and our thoughts of whether or not they were ready to go.
The Bible tells us that if someone is living according to God's word, then we should rejoice when they die, for they have gone to a much better place. But it is human nature to cry and mourn when we lose someone we love.

Answer 10

I guess we all mourn for ourselves some...but I would say most people mourn for them...cause most dead people end up going to hell...and who wants there friend in hell? I know that sounds really crude....but its true!

Answer 11

We mourn for him, his family and remember the things he did while he was on this world