Been in a relationship for 8 yrs with a guy, we are currently broke up and I've been dating someone else and have grown majorly close & in love with him over the past 7 months, the problem being my parents don't approve and said he could not provide for me like my ex could and where the new guy is previously married with 2 kids, they know i can do better.. i want to make my parents proud but I am really in love and I'd do anything in the world for this guy and his kids... i'm 23 years old and live on my own but i can't stand the thought of my parents not approving such a great guy.. i really love him an want to be with him , but because of my parents i am back with my ex just to make them proud of me .. and i miss my man of 7 months so bad each day, and i cry everynight it just seems so unfair .. but i just cant hurt my parents.. what do i do? completely miserable without him... i'm going thru major depression.. please someone help me some good advice.
2006-11-30 16:40:05 · 3 answers · asked by SweetBlonde 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't mean to sound nasty or upset you but what happens if things don't work out with 8yr guy and when your parent pass on are you meant to be alone and unhappy for ever just to make them happy.People don't stay in relationships just for there kids so why should you for your parent and if they really love you they will get over it and be happy that you are happy .Don't spend the rest of your life sad and unhappy just to please your parents. I really hope you do what is best for you good luck
2006-11-30 16:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by feelingstupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to matters of the heart the only person who needs to approve is yourself. No offense to your parents, I can see that you love them very much and I am sure they only want the best for you, but it is really none of their business who you fall in love with. You need to sit them down and have a chat with them, tell them that you really love 7 month guy and that there was a reason that you broke up with 8 year guy and you don't want to get back with him just to make them happy because you are not happy being with him. Tell them how much 7 month guy means to you and how dearly you miss him and how much their approval means to you. If they still can't accept it then it is their own fault, you tried and gave them the opprtunity to at least get to know 7 month guy better and they declined. Follow your heart sweetie, be with 7 month guy and be happy, don't be miserable just to please others, no matter how much they mean to you YOU should mean more to you.
2006-12-01 01:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Its only natural that your parents want the best for you. I only want the best for my kids. However, if your parents love you that much they would want you to be happy. I dont think that a parent could live with themselves knowing that their child is with someone that they dont love just to make them happy. You should sit down and say.
Look I know that you dont approve of John (for instance) but I love him so much and I dont want to do anything that will not make you proud of me. But will you be proud of me if I married someone I did not love. I know you love me and I know you want me to be happy. I am so happy with John and I know that John loves me and he will do anything to protect me and provide for me. It is important that you be happy knowing that I will be the happiest women in the world with him, because you love me.
This should make them realize that you really love him and the love you and all they want is for you to be happy.
2006-12-01 00:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋