Question... Girls only please?

Question

Ok so I'm a 16 year old girl who is sexually active and I have my period... my mom doesn't know I'm active and I want to see a gynocologist and I want to start birth control but my mom will be extremely angry at me if I ask to start that or even ask about a gynocologist for that matter... so does anyone have any advice on what I can do?

Ok so I'm a 16 year old girl who is sexually active and I have my period... my mom doesn't know I'm active and I want to see a gynocologist and I want to start birth control but my mom will be extremely angry at me if I ask to start that or even ask about a gynocologist for that matter... so does anyone have any advice on what I can do?

Also I'd like to add I'm not sneaking around her for no reason at all the thing is she is not the greatest person once you know her and it's not that I feel like I'm doing something wrong it's that I'm afraid of her anger... If worst comes to worse I could easily go to my dad but my mom would find out possibly still. I really do not want to hear anything about my age I know how old I am and what you people may think but I am not looking for opinions on my lifestyle more so just answers to my original question.

I know this may be a very controversial topic and it is very hard to stay away from the fact of my age and my such, but I am as much of a human as everyone else in this world and I am just looking for answers to my question. I know I have my whole life ahead of me which is why I'm trying to get these things taken care of so I do not mess up my future. I am asking everyone to just act as if they were in my position and tell me what they would decide... I could give you my whole life story and why I do not consider myself as young as 16 sounds but that is not something for the internet please just focus on the question itself and answering it not giving me a pure opinion. Thank You.

Ok to clear up yet a few more things:

-To me "sexually active" does not mean sex with multiple partners but rather just the fact someone does have sex... I have a boyfriend I do not have a ton of boys that I have sex with every other day.

-Yet again it's not the fact that I can't talk to her about sex it's the way in which she will react ok... I am not afraid to talk to my father about this exept for the fact he does not live with me. My mother is not someone that ANYONE mature or not would want to talk about any issue or even something thats not an issue. Please do not say I am immature or something because it is not a case of maturity it is a case of my mother being a very angry woman nad I am AFRAID of her. So please stop with the opianated answers I would prefer suggestions and factual answers.

Answer 1

wll if there is a planned parent hood close to you. you can go there with out an adult unless they have changed but my sister took me when i was 15 here is a link for planned parent hood if you dont know if there is one in your area you can put your zip code in and will tell you. ok the top one will tell you what to expect when you do go to a dr. and the second one is the home page. but before you go are you sure you couldnt talk to her about this. you dont have to tell her you are sexually active but just tell her you would like to start on birth control because your peroids are irregular and you think it might help. or you could tell her you want to get on the pill just in case. well if you dont think you can tell her i think you should see one because it will be alot harder to explain you being pregnant than on the pill. but when your mom finds out you didnt come to her she is likely to be hurt that you felt like you couldnt come to her,and kind of mad that you didnt come to her so either way shes gonna get mad. especially if she finds your pills well i hope i have helped a little and good luck

Answer 2

I suggest you seriously consider what you are doing by being sexually active at your age. Is this something you really want to be dealing with? Were you 'convinced' to be sexaully active by your bf? Think about what you are doing carefully.

Sneaking around behind your mom's back is not good. If you feel you aren't doing anything wrong, why then are you afraid to tell her? Being on the pill at your age is not good, those are hormones that can change a great deal. They affect your body in many ways that can have negative effects later on.

My suggestion is to stop the intercourse and be a teen and enjoy your life. It will go so fast and one day you will look back and wish you hadn't done this. You are taking a chance of getting pregnant and really messing your life up if you have not been using protection. Do yourself a big favor. Think on this.

Answer 3

Planned parenthood or you could tell your mother that your cycles are causing you alot of discomfort and you would like to see the ob to see if everything is OK. Also remember even if you are on birth control you still need to use a condom to prevent std's...try explaining that one to your mom.. 16 is pretty young to start having sex let alone being "sexually active" Be careful you have your whole life ahead of you.. don't blow it with an unwanted pregnancy or an std. You sound responsible and I hope you get Togo the doctor. Good luck.

Answer 4

16 is pretty young, too young to be active but that's your choice. I would ask your mom to take you to the dr, you can say what you want, she doesn't need to go in with you, you are old enough, you could tell her you're having extremely cramping periods, then use the birth control as a remedy, they are used for bad periods to regulate them. I'm not promoting lying or not telling your mom, I think the best way to go is to always be honest, but I totally understand your point of view and respect your choice so the way to go would be the above because you'll need the medical cards to go so you have to involve your mom, but you can white lie about why you need to go.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Two words....Planned Parenthood. If you are sexually active, you should have an exam, screening, and education done. I would suggest to inform your mother that you think you are at the age to start some kind of birth control and see where it goes from there. If she totally flips out, there are resources out there to help, namely the one listed above. Any other questions you have, call your local health department and they may be able to help you out or refer you to someplace else.

Answer 7

Maybe you could tell her that your periods are messed up and you want to get on birth control. I believe most of the time someone over 18 has to take you I think thats the only problem. If you have a relative you are close to ask them.

Answer 8

Be careful about giving away sex too easily. Guys wont respect you. Also keep in mind there are nasty Sexually Transmitted Disease's out there, and you are not immuned to them. Think this out before you do it, you'll be glad you did when you're older. Also....I agree with what another person said. If you're not mature enough to talk to your mother about it, you're not mature enough to have sex.

Answer 9

You can go to a Planned Parenthood clinic, all states have them and they do not require parental permission for you to be seen and for you to get birth control. They have other services as well. Just look it up in your local phonebook, or ask a teacher or counselor. They will know where to locate one.

Answer 10

family planning- states have them and usually they're free. Anything you talk about with a dr. is considered confidental unless it's a harm to yourself or others. Talk with your general doctor as well- most can give you the proper care and birth control pills as well. I started taking them young because they reduced cramping- good luck