My boyfriend is a cocaine user and has been for many years. How do I deal with him? How do I live with him like this? What do I do? I've been living with this for a year and a half. and it's hard for me to deal with. Someone please help me. He doesn't come home until late he makes me worry about him. He promises he'll stop and he says I'm sorry I'll leave. I'm bad for you. Things like that. This really hurts me and I dont know what to do. I love him dearly and I dont want to give up on him, but I want him to get help. But he won't. He says he wants to but he doesnt do it. I think he says that to please me.
2006-11-30 16:19:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hony ill tell you what the best thing for you to do is get out of the relation ship before he takes you down with him if he really loved you he would give that junk up,think about your self and also ask your self is this the way you want to live do you want this kind of life,and im sur you dont so just leave i know that might be hard to do but how do you know what hes doing when he stays out late and stuff,you know when most people are on those kind of drugs they dont care about nothing except being buzzed all the time,but your the only one that can make that deceison for you know what you want in life and how you wanta live i only hope you make the right choices, thank you
2006-11-30 16:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by DAVE S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soory to say but he is not going to get help until he is ready. I have been there. Leave him right away. Otherwise you are in for a lot of heartache. The lies, the staying out late, the worrying will really continue to take it's toil on you. You will probably be really sad and hurt and he will continue to have his fun, then when he sobers up he will apologize and promise he'll be better.
I'm sorry but the longer you stay the more painful it will be. He's an addict. He is not going to stop for you no matter how awesome you are. He probably needs to hit rock bottom before he will see the light. Please end your pain now and move on. What does he have to offer you?
2006-11-30 16:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by jblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't save someone from themselves. He's using cocaine to escape reality because something in his life now or in the past is causing him pain and he hasn't released it. Your only choice is to leave him. It won't get better. He will do anything for his next high and the more he does it the worse it gets. Sooner or later something horrible will happen and if your not careful you also will be brought into harms way. When he runs out of money he will start stealing from you to continue his habit. He's going to have to hit rock bottom before he realizes that there are no winners when using drugs. There are no success stories when using drugs. Drugs kill, drugs destroy lives, drugs consume the mind and body and there's no coming back until he releases the pain that he's trying to escape.
2006-11-30 16:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His addiction has really set in hard. Nothing you say or do will make a difference. Addicts don't respond very well unless they really want to kick the addiction. You might call a drug counselor to see what they can tell you. They do have organizations to help people. Hopefully it's not to late. Hopefully he won't get violent. He needs help, before he get's caught doing the stuff. When you call someone whoever it is tell them you want to be anonymous. If you love him make the call. Sometimes someone different makes a difference to convince him to seek help.
2006-11-30 16:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by LARRY P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on him but do not live in the situation. He will not quit for you he will only quit for himself IF and when he is ready. Odds are he's using the lines you quoted him as saying in order to make you feel bad because I'm sure your response is always something like "no baby your not I love you". You are in a non direct way supporting his habit by allowing it into your life. Who cares if he's not doing it around you your accepting it. Move on with your life and find a man who doesnt have to snort all his money up his nose Im sure that you'll at some point realize that your worth having a man who is drug free in your life. Love yourself enough to get out of the situation give him the ultamatium tell him its the drugs or you and stick to your guns!
2006-11-30 16:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are co-dependent. You have got to get yourself help before you will be able to move on. He does these things, then says he's no good for you, which makes you want to show him that he is good for you, which is codependency. Go to al anon meetings, and listen to stories of others in your position. They will help you be able to get stronger and get yourself out of this. He has to get help on his own, you can't make him.
2006-11-30 16:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Corona 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are groups who deal with people in your situation there a spin off of Narcotics Anonymous NA is for people who are seriously try to kick their habits.both of you would benefit by attending meetings. Na is located in every state in the USA you could check with churchs and health stations for information good luck
2006-11-30 16:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get together with his friends and his parents and stage an intervention.
To get an idea on how to do it watch the show Intervention on A&E on Sunday nights.
2006-11-30 16:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would tell him "If you really love me then why do you keep on killing yourself"
2006-11-30 16:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 simple words.....take them to heart....
RUN FOREST RUN
2006-11-30 16:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋