My ex...Or, rather a guy I spent alot of time with...was very emotionaly trying, he'd start fights, blame me for the reasons of why we couldnt work, all kinds of BS...Lead me on saying we was together, but telling other people we wern't together (Note to smart ***'s: no im not ugly or fat & im very well liked by my click) I see the big picture now in everything he did, all the games. but I have moments when I feel like maybe im the crazy one. He called me today and his cousin asked who he was on the phone with, when boy said my name...they started laughing like it was a personal joke. And I imagine Boy didnt exactly tell his cousin both sides of the story when things went wrong. So I hung up. Im really trying to cut him off and stop communicating with him. Main point of question: I just feel so crazy, like maybe he was never wrong in anything and its all my imagination. Is this normal for emotional abuse??? How can I get past it??
2006-11-30 16:19:21 · 8 answers · asked by The inquisitive one 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Damn (rideordie) you sound like the kinda girl i am...i was also preggo with his child but lost it from too much stree/high blood pressure i assume....caused from him. Sometimes i suppose it jus helps to hear others opinions and storys, although the true answer is always in your heart. <3
2006-11-30 16:48:51 · update #1
I just read an amazing book on healing emotions called The Journey by Brandon Bays She cured herself of cancer and has been curing people of all kinds of emotional and physical problems through this simple process. I am going to do the process this weekend. I'm am sure it works.
2006-11-30 16:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not wrong. I once was in a relationship like that, the sooner you clear yourself of it the better.
Do not answer his calls, best thing to do is block his calls.
It takes time to over come, I remember feeling the same way, that maybe it was me and I kept replaying the events in my mind, that is no good, you will drive yourself crazy doing that. BEST advice I have is this: In any situation in your life weigh out the advantages and disadvantages, which you have done, and the disadvantages out weigh the good,so walk away and don't look back. I learned this the hard way.You can't get over something if you keep draging it up.
When you catch yourself thinking of this guy and your past make yourself stop, pray, read, exercise, or call a friend and talk about anything but him or anyone that is acquainted with him. If others are still laughing, let it go, they will be the ones to answer for that not you. Your life is to short to worry about other people and their ignorance.
Good Luck and May God Bless you.
2006-11-30 16:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dave Pelzer is an author who wrote about is horrific childhood abuse. His first book, A Child Called It details his life from age 4-12. His following books explain how he healed himself and offers great advice/encouragement to anyone who also has suffered childhood abuse. I would suggest you check this author out.
2016-05-23 06:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl.. i know EXACTLY how you feel.. at first things were great with my ex and i.. and thats exactly how things ended up.. lucky you.. im 15 weeks pregnant with his kid.. his exgirlfriend who he thought at one point was his baby mama came back from texas earliar this week and i have been completly bored and made to feel like im worthless and that my feelings are nothing.. she is staying at his house and he wont allow me over there and wont come to see me for more then an hour.. so i started hanging out with a guy i had a thing with years ago and let me tell you.. it'll help alot juss to reconnect with some people you've lost touch with.. no everything is not your fault and yes its the emotional abuse thats causing you to think your crazy.. there have been several times when i thought i should be in a nuthouse.. he even drove me to the point the other day when i was having thoughts about putting a knife through my stomach.. NO i would never do that and people might think im a horrible mother for it.. but emotional abuse really causes things like that.. i also stole my mothers van to chase him down at his house since nobody would let me talk to him and got pulled over without my lisense or anything.. hes not worth it sweety and its the hardest thing to realize that somebody you love juss doesnt love you back.. you cant make them.. but speaking for myself and you we really need to have more respect for ourselves.. his family also treated me like the scum of the earth.. good girl for trying to cut him off.. when he calls juss dont say anything and hang up if he doesnt take the hint threaten to press harrasment charges.. if he doesnt take that seriously do it and if he keeps bothering you you can get a restraining order.. good luck and pray for me and my baby too..!
2006-11-30 16:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by RiDeOrDiE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships come and go. We have them everyday. If you are looking for love and the relationship you' re in is not making u happy then it is not the relationship for u,( if it is not right then it is wrong). be careful not to give your heart and all your time away too quickly because abusive people will use this to get only what they want.
2006-11-30 16:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was abusive emotionally and on the way in being physical abusive...glad you are away from him, do not answer his calls and get a self help book on emotional abuse and assertive training.. libraries has tons of them... these books will help you right now and in the future you will be able to spot it faster.. if a guy starts the emotional abuse, you will spot if and then you can kick him to the curb.. take care of yourself
2006-11-30 16:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is DEFINATELY a shade of emotional abuse. Dear, listen to me, he's no good for you, and you're much better without him.
If you want to get past this, then leave him behind. You deserve a much better, and fuller life. God Bless you.
Good Luck. Merry Christmas.
2006-11-30 16:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sister...
trust me abuse in a relation is a NO NO....and no its not okay or normal to be abused by a partner
i was in a relation with a guy..atleast that's what i called
he blamed me for all his shortcoming and cursed me...and was jealous of my success...
if he is not telling his friends means he has no long term interest in you...he is just using you as a punching pad when he is frustrated or mad of his weakness...
these kinda men are nothing but weak by heart and mind...
u said right its only who that will have a final call...
in my case i dumped him as soon as i got out of that crazy phase....but yet it took me 2 years to finally decide to quit this abuse...
then i was determined that i am a better human being and i deserve someone who respects me for what i am...
sister have your selfrespect...no one can humiliate you or intimidate you without your permission.....you are not worth the abuse ...all u are worth is love and respect...walk with your head high.
2006-12-01 03:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋