Okay, first off, I'm a girl if you can't tell by my avatar. Anyway, I'm not sure if I'm straight, bisexual, or gay. I know that for a fact I'm attracted to guys, who I think about like non-stop. When I do fantasize about guys I get sexually aroused. I guess you could say that I'm attracted to girls in a way. I know that I look at them as I would a guy, even in a sexual way at times. But when I fantasize about girls, I don't get aroused. When I was younger I experimented a lot, mainly with girls. A lot of the times I just did it for the fun of it but now I'm confused.
2006-11-30 16:11:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Mister- don't be an a s s hole, I was asking a serious question. Why did you waste your time answering if it was going to be something stupid and negative?
jh f- I see that you are a newbie who just recently joined and are still on level 1. Sooo, you're pointless answer will just go ignored by me.
tom d- Can I say retarded/ sick perverted LOSER who needs to get a life. Sorry, but unlike you, I don't do animals. Do you enjoy it that much?
2006-11-30 16:33:17 · update #1
Hi there. I agree... these people answering can show more respect towards u as an individual! Man ppl... it's just a question... ANSWER IT!!! Anways, I read ur question and personally, u maybe have a tendency to lean towards bisexuality... however, since you didnt mention ur age or anything, it might be hormones. I do believe no matter your sexuality, people need to show 'respect' & 'dignity' (as these p-r-i-c-k-s didnt), you need that! It doesnt really matter on ur sexuality, I personally do not think being bi or gay is morally right, but it is a choice ppl make. I hope this helps u and i hope u find out more soon!!!
2006-11-30 17:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the opposite of bi-curious? Bi-been-there-done-that? :-)
Seriously... If you're attracted to guys, you aren't exclusively gay. If you previously experimented with girls, you haven't always been exclusively straight. But if you don't get aroused any more by fantasizing about girls, I'd say your bi-curiosity has been satisfied.
On the other hand, LOTS of guys get VERY aroused at the thought of two girls "experimenting" with each other. So if you do end up in a relationship with a guy, you might be able to drive him wild by telling him some of the things you used to do when you were still exploring your curious side.
2006-11-30 16:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar sort of quandry myself, so you're not alone.
Thing is, I like guys. A lot. There's something about men that I love, be they feminine or masculine, and as for their bodies- well, I'm crazy for them. I've always known I was a little 'different', because I absolutely love the idea of men getting it on with men- it turns me on. And I've always been interested in the GLBTQI movement, so I started identifying as bisexual queer, because I am so interested in sexuality and love all genderqueer folk.
Yet at the same time, I don't know how bisexual I truly am. I own some 'real' lesbian porn (butch-femme and butch-butch), and I can get sexually aroused looking at it, but it usually takes more work, somehow, than watching male-male porn. When I watch heterosexual stuff, I usually need some serious stuff going on to enjoy the women, but at the same time, I'm not impervious to women's beauty, I'm still drawn as ever to GLBTQI, and looking at body parts.
What does that mean? I just don't know, but I don't feel quite right calling myself straight, because I'm not. I'm something else entirely. In the end, I still identify as bisexual, but not so much about sexual attraction as the knowledge that I could someday be involved happily with a woman, although my preference is to the men. I'm more of a 'equal opportunity lover' than a real bisexual, I suppose you'd say.
Well, looking back on that, I have no idea why I spilled my guts like that . . .
In my humble opinion, I think you're straight or similar to me- mostly straight but with the option of women out there, but not necessarily the real desire for them in an abstract way.
I doubt that will help (probably just muddle things up!), but I tried, eh?
2006-11-30 16:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people think you have to be either Bi, Straight, or Gay and there are no "in-betweens". But there are. You seem to be in the middle of Straight and Bi. Although you prefer guys sexually, your feelings about girls shouldn't just be put aside. Labeling your sexuality isn't really going to help you out any, just accept the description you gave as a sort of orientation and don't worry about labels. =]
2006-11-30 17:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by BloodyHell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sexual preference is not all about sexual arousal. Emotional attraction can be included also. Maybe you like women on a emotional level instead of sexual.
2006-11-30 16:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People understate how fluid sexuality can really be. It ebbs and flows. So go with the flow, and do what you feel. Don't expect to feel the same 5 years from now, or even tomorrow. Just let your feelings guide your actions, and you won't go wrong. And please, don't get all hung up over faulty and incomplete social notions about sexual orientation categories. You know yourself best.
2006-11-30 20:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the worry of it all could drive you nuts! If the cross -section of people you come across is fairly equally gender based, someone, sometime, male or female will rock your boat. That's life........ticking a box in a category won't solve your confusion, trust yourself to your own attractions to people, be they male or female!
2006-11-30 17:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by renclrk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may be bisexual, but you seem to prefer guys. this is not something to be ashamed of, especially since society looks well upon "straight" girls who mess around with other girls. this is an especially popular practice at college parties. unless you go to brigham young.
2006-11-30 16:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by jake806 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what sexuality you fit into.
Having a sexuality label is society's way of coping with different people. Its like fitting humans into categories and making it easier to identify each group of people.
Women can bring your life different things men can, and men can bring you different things women can. Either way, if you like someone, chances are they have qualities that you like over others.
If you like men, then heck, go for it. If you like women, then heck, go for it. If you like em both... what fun you can have!
It is about finding someone you care about, and having them share your life and make your life fulfilling, whether they be female or male.
Life is way to short to worry about the little things!
2006-11-30 16:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
WoOW girl.
for what you wrote.
i could tell you are bi.
cuz although you had
something with girls in the past
just for fun.
now you feel something else.
so i think you are bi.
cuz i see you still like boys.
but is kinda hard.
it depends what is in your
head more and
what you fantasize more.
but yeah i am just trying to help you.
2006-11-30 16:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by Naheidelyn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋