I would consider myself a loner, someone who has social skills and is able to function in society, but who doesn't really experience loneliness and prefers to spend the majority of free time in solitude. Some people have said that I need to be more social, but conformity seems to be the base for their reasons, and I'm much happier now than when I was younger and more social. However, I also recognise that I don't know everything or everybody and cannot see myself from someone else's perspective, so I pose this question to you. Is there anything necessarily wrong or pathological about being a loner?
2006-11-30 15:56:46 · 7 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It was once said, you know true happiness when you can be happy alone. I think it's true because happiness comes from inside of you and not from anything or anyone else. I guess I haven't found that yet!
2006-11-30 16:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by jessangel8705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I am very much a loner too. Put me on a remote island. so long as I have comfortable shelter and food, drink and music. that would be all I need. yet I'll go to a party and bring life to any party.but i still prefer to be alone. i am alone a lot, yet i am never lonely. i get enough interaction with people at work and where ever i go. so My alone time 70% of my time is very precious.
As long as you are happy. that is all that matters. Why be sociable if it does not make you happy? If you hate football, why go to a football game.
2006-12-01 00:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is. Of course I also consider myself a loner, but I can also make up my own mind about what I want, when I want it, and how I can go about getting it. I don't go out of my way to make other people happy and I don't expect them to ether. I don't need other people opinion as to what to ware what to eat or how to cut my hair, if I like it I do it and I know it was my mind that said I liked it not someone else telling me ok do it.
2006-12-01 01:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who are not insecure about being alone I would think are better adjusted and less stressed out than others.My impression so far is that I have come to enjoy my "Alone time" Now, if only I could afford myself. I need to be able to live with myself first. Being married and divorced twice has left me reevaluating as to why it or I failed at it..So many seem too eager to be better than or like their parents and usually fail ...well, I did anyway. Like my Dad used to say; Take care of number one.
2006-12-01 00:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it just means that your personality is that of someone who prefers solitude. What would be unhealthy is if you were a recluse and never saw people EVER. Most likely the people telling you to get out more are those who love to socialize, so mentally they desire other people, whereas you don't and prefer to have time to yourself.
2006-12-01 00:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Byte-Sized Cookie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with it. It took me years of therapy to okay with myself and by myself. My choice. I think it depends on the person, we are all like snow flakes- all different.
2006-12-01 00:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great to be an individual. If you're happy, there shouldn't any problem.
2006-12-01 00:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋