all the time i do wat i am told to do by my peers how do i stop this i dont wana do wat othr ppl tell me 2 do but at the same time i dont want them 2 h8 me i hav a bad rep of being my friends slave and im tired of it
she got me in soo much trbl 1 yr i skipped class with her and was found by the cops i didnt want 2 b a bad kid and i had took all the blame
if any 1 has tips on how 2 stick up 2 ma friends plz tell me i dont want 2 b my friends slave for life
2006-11-30 15:45:34 · 15 answers · asked by catcfh1020 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell them your not there slave if they are true friends they will back off
2006-11-30 15:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by thomas h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time you used your own innate sense of right and wrong - if your friends want you to do something which you know is not right - then tell them NO.
Also, according to your question you say you are another person's slave - then its about time you (a) stopped being that (b) stopped being friends with this other person, (c) found another TRUE friend - one who would not treat you like a slave.
At the moment, it would seem you are just in with some bad company - you now need to get out from 'under' and find some more true friends - dump this lot of losers.
2006-11-30 17:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u ve already started being their slave, now u cant get on on the same level as them. Its natural! they ll hate u or think u re becoming wiser. hohestly spking they ll hate u.
Now u ve got two options either u walk away from them
or u keep being their slave like u said.
If the relationship is really strong then this will help. start from the weakest link among them nd just prove to he/she that u re not her/his servant! its easy (be arrogant to the weakest). but while u do this u have to double the respect and fear u have for the stronger link, just to give u a back up( dont forget to be humble and strong in ur opinions). Then after u re done with one, that will put both of you on the same level and ease up ur duties. gradually move to the nxt using the same procedure, but this time u have to increase ur regard for the first one and also triple the respest for the stronger ones as usual.
When u've done this to the third one, ur status in the group will increase definitely. but it is risky and as a matter of fact u must finish it once you've started.
gud luck
2006-11-30 23:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Henry I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really is your friend then she wouldn't treat you like a slave in the 1st place.
The next time she asks you to do something just say NO! that is if you don't want to do it right if you keep sayin NO! then she'll eventually cop on to what you are sayin and start respectin you.
If she doesn't. Ditch her she's not a true friend.
Good Luck ; )
2006-12-01 06:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Genipher17 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it has hard, i was in a similar postion when i ws at school. now in my 30s i find find the assertive technique works, by saying when you (behaviour) it makes me feel (your won feelings, this may be angry, upset ect) because ... it takes practice and it is best to practice on people you trust. int he mean time try not to let people walk all over; but don't become aggresive and defensive - if your a sensitive person you could end up hurt. there are penty of self helps books out there love. sorri if i havent been much help - im very tiered. love to you x
2006-11-30 15:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by poppy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that you're not going to do anything you don't want to do and then stick to it!
the only way to stand up for yourself is to do it. it will be hard the first time, but after that it'll be easy. besides, anyone that tells you to do something that you both know is wrong, isn't really a friend. you might be better off finding some friends that respect you.
2006-11-30 15:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Michael JB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't want them to hate you, but people will inevitably dislike people who act as their 'slaves'. Unless you act as your own person, you can never expect to get respect from these people or anyone. Harsh but true.
You need to learn to say no. Just say it and stick to it. Set yourself some standards - and let others clean up their own mess.
I think that you also need to get new friends - ones who won't take advantage of you. You're too nice for those people.
2006-11-30 18:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to dump your 'friend'.
A friend is not someone that would let you take all the blame when you skipped school together and would not ket you be her slave.
When she wants to skip school next time say no and mean no. Dont be a follower all your life. You need to be more assertive.
2006-11-30 19:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by SP 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are allready starting to get it...
Nobody will respect you if you havent got what it takes to have your own thoughts and opinions and the conviction to follow your own path ...
let your life take it self where YOU want to take it ...
try reading getting hold of some Tony Robbins stuff or any "Life coaching " material ,,, its good stuff and it will help you get control of your life .
Good luck
2006-11-30 18:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by blogmart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be abit more assertive and become more confident with yourself.
Tell your friends that you will do what you want to do when you want to do it and if they don't like it then they can go take a run in front of a bus!
2006-11-30 21:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just quit them,they only want you around to boss around.Just be careful they could try and get you in trouble no matter what you do.Slowly drift apart and start hanging out with other good people then it wont be so noticeable when you arent with them at all .Good luck.
2006-11-30 15:50:38 · answer #11 · answered by suzispeller 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋