telling parents you are gay, how do you tell them?
2006-11-30 15:41:08 · 13 answers · asked by JT B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I told my Mom in a Burger King, because thats when she asked. I was on my own by then though. She told me not to tell my Dad because she didn't think he would handle it well, but called me a few hours later to tell me that she told him and he was OK with it.
A lot of it depends on how dependent you are on your parents and if you think they would be OK with it. If you live at home and they kick you out, where will you go to? If you have already moved out but still depend on them financially, would they cut you off? If you are on your own and are not dependent on them, you can just tell them without any repercussions and they will most likely accept you for who you are.
When I told them, it was because I just couldn't keep it bottled up any longer. There is no right way or wrong way, as long as you have a back up plan for the worst case scenario. It was much easier than I thought it would be, and when I finally told them it felt as if a huge weight was lifted from me.
You know you parents much better than anyone here does, so just think it out and do what is best for you.
2006-11-30 15:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are brave. Perhaps you could wait for a time when the parent you are closer to, is not feeling stressed or unhappy with anything. Then gently break the news. Your heart will know when the best time is.
Assure him/her that you love them as a child. Nothing changes. And that they were good parents...
I believe they need to know that.
The Lord loves you as you are. Gay or not. You are loved. Good luck!
2006-11-30 15:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by La-Soph 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hy hons gay boyfriends daviie and steviie hons, and take your mother off too the side hons, and if your old enough and got a job hons, have your suitcase bye the front door hons. tell your mother whats going on and ask her not too tell your father until your ready too leave and move out. explain too her look mom iam gay but i will not bring it into this house and ounce iam gone and out on my own, you can try tell dad. never tell the men in the family they are notroiuss in understanding this they may blw a gaskett. if you got brothers dont lay this on themm. another i nightmare hons. try tel your mother look this isent easy but spill it okay. and try tell her look untilam gone i wont drag any boyfriends home okay not in there house hons bad move.
2006-12-01 01:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ask myself that question a lot. im 22 still live with parents, sometimes i just want to tell them straight out about me but then something tells me to wait and i guess ive been like this since im 18. in my case, this is my personal choice, i mean im dying to tell my mother, and just be real with my folks but i think the right time would be when i move out (hopefully soon) that way in case anything doesnt go the way i want it to be, i mean ill be i guess ill be on my own and ill just take it from there. but like i said, there are many times (especially when im out with friends and im coming back home) when my mother asks me how my night was i mean would love to say something like "oh awesome i met this awesome guy and danced all night had a blast, blah blah..." but yes, the right time will come, i think it depends in every person when that "right time" is.
2006-11-30 18:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by antoni_m 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not easy but explain that you did not ch oose to be any more than they chose to be straight and because they probably love you they will understand.God made gay and straight people and we are all beautiful and deserve happiness and sex.Holding it inside and not telling is worse ,I know from experience.
2006-11-30 16:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by woodsonhannon53 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell your mom first i would say. i would think that they may already have a clue anyway but if not mothers usually accept things like that better than fathers. then you can decide when the time will be right to tell your dad.
also, when you feel it is right is when it is right. you are the one living with the secret so when you feel comfortable discussing is when. good luck
2006-11-30 15:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by jsha2424 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
when you are capable of standing on your own 2 feet,
( as in moving out of the house )
then what risk is there?
tell them and hope for the best.
it is the best way to do this !
2006-11-30 18:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let them know that you have to tell them something important and then say i'm gay.
2006-11-30 16:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is safest not to tell your parents.
2006-12-01 01:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Gail 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right.
2006-11-30 15:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by <3 <3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋