Just had a baby 4 1/2 months ago...just found out I`m pregnant again..I`m scared to tell my hubby because he`s so stressed out about money already..I don`t belive in abortion and neither does he..We have an 11 year old daughter and a baby boy...Any ideas on how to break the news to him???
2006-11-30 15:36:29 · 21 answers · asked by bad kitty 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was in your shoes not long ago, I have a 9 months old baby boy, and I am currently 6 1/2 months pregnant with a baby girl. I got pregnant when my son was about 2 /12 months old, to break the news I just wrote in my son's shirt "I am the big brother" At the beginning my husband was worried because our financial situation, but he understand it's a blessing to have a child and we are doing great. Tell him as son as possible, You will see he won't react the way you might be thinking he is. CONGRATS!
2006-11-30 15:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breaking the news is going to be hard but you really need to tell him and soon. He'll have 9 months to wrap his mind around a second newborn. I don't believe that is the best thing for your body to get pregnant so soon after delivery. Your body needs it's chance to rest and get back to normal some. Did your doctor lecture you about this? You should have been educated about the high risk of pregnancy before leaving the hospital. Sorry but that's the chance you took and being irresponisble has only led you to a more difficult position in life. Having two kids....newborns....plus they will both be in diapers....formula...I really wish you the best and I hope your family will help you because you've just added on a huge financial responsibility by adding another child.
2006-11-30 15:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by julibell_75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you need to tell him your pregnante so i'd suggest making a pizza and spell out "we're pregnante" or "we're prego again" on it with the toppings, or write it on a cake in some funny way that way it will lighten the mood. If you're scared the best thing to do is to make it fun, and that way you don't actually have to say it, you can just wait for his reply.
To help out money wise just remember that
money is money and nothing else. Buy food at cheaper stores, like aldis, save a lot, food wearhouses, places like that. If nothing else go to your local church and go to the food pantry where you can get the basic's like canned fruit and veggies. There are many things you can do to cut costs, you just need to redue your budget and make it work.
2006-11-30 16:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him. I like to see it as everything happens for a reason. Did you doctor not tell you that you are more fertile right after a pregnancy? Most doctors warn you of that right after having a baby. Just tell him the truth and try to consider all your options. Consider adoption if you think that it is better for the baby. Put the baby first. Good luck!
2006-11-30 15:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by irish20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord hun you are going to have your hands full with both babies. I know from my own personal experience that birth control does not always work. But you are going to have to tell him but do it in a gentle way. Remeber that children are a blessing. Take it from a woman who miscarried the only time i was pregrant, then due to complications had to have a hystermony. good luck
2006-11-30 15:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sweetie, i'm 21 and my bf is 22, we have three kids, all born in the same month one year and 3 days apart. We both have minium paying jobs, and we make it. Sometimes you have to cut back on things you are used to to do things you need to do. And as far as he goes, he laid down with you knowing there was no protection whatsoever, and he obviously knows that you are fertile, hey tell him to get over it and began the new room
2006-11-30 17:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by bri2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. You have to remember that both of you were equally responsible for your current situation so you should be honest and up front.
If you approach the situation with joy, it may be contagious. :) Just say "hey, I know we weren't planning this but surprise!"
And don't worry about making it work. It WILL work out and everything will be fine. Everything will fall into place.
Good Luck.
2006-11-30 15:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I faced a very similar situation with my 3rd baby. Surprisingly enough, after all the worrying I did, he was happy. You might be surprised by his reaction. Just tell him, "guess what, you super stud... you did it again."
Good luck to you... it's not easy having them that close together, but it's so worth it.
2006-11-30 18:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW YOU ARE SO RIGHT ABOUT NOT HAVING AN ABORTION BECAUSE I DO NOT BELIEVE IN IT NEITHER. BUT JUST COME OUT AND TELL HIM AND ASSURE HIM THAT GOD HAS MADE A WAY THIS FAR WITH HAVING YOUR OTHER CHILDREN AND HE IS FAITHFUL TO PROVIDE THE MEANS FOR ANOTHER CHILD. GOD IS AWESOME AND HE WILL NOT FAIL YOU NOW. SO JUST SIT HIM DOWN AND TELL HIM OVER DINNER, BUT REMEMBER BE SURE THAT HE KNOWS HOW GOOD OUR GOD IS. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU AND GOD IS BY YOUR SIDE. HE HAS GOT YOU COVERED MY SISTER BE STRONG......
2006-11-30 17:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by SAVED ONE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem many years ago :)
I fixed my husband his favorite dinner and told him over desert. He may not be happy, but at least he'll be full & in a decent mood.
2006-11-30 15:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by momv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋