WE BOTH HAVE ISSUES WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 4YRS STILL HAVE HAVE FIRE FOR EA OTHER BUT HIS WALLS ARE KILLING ME MY STOMACH ACHES ALL THE TIME. TRYING TO BREAK AWAY BUT NOT ATTRACTED TO ANY ONE ELSE.HATE TO SAY IT BUT I STILL DESIRE HIM BUT I THINK THIS LOVE IS GOING TO KILL NEED SOME POSITIVE VIBES PLEASE
2006-11-30 15:03:29 · 17 answers · asked by lucky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Petty arguments are a symptom of a bigger problem. A man who argues that you go out too much (for example), isn't concerned that you go out too much at all. But, more so, what you do when you do out. I find it interesting that you state that his walls are killing you. LITERALLY, killing you. Those stomach acids can tear a hole in your body, so you need to address this.
STOP BEING THE VICTIM. You have just as much rights to this relationship as he has, so OWN THESE RIGHTS!!!!
Find the true root cause for these arguments and fix THAT. If you can't, then you really do need to let this one go.
Here's a good test... try to imagine what your life would be like without the arguments, without the walls, and if need be, without him in your life.
If ANY of this makes you breathe easier, you need to seek that out. Decide that life is too short to waste it being indecisive.
2006-11-30 15:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by websco137 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know sounds really cheesy but love shouldn't hurt, just because you desire and love someone doesn't mean is the right relationship to be in.you can't fix his issues . I know right now feels like you could never want or love someone the way you do him but with time you can. and with the right person there will be no more stomach aches.
take care
2006-11-30 23:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by haa haa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably need some time apart to each reflect on what you really want and whether you are compatible. You are too entangled in it now. Take a vacation or move out for a while. Visit a relative even if you think that is ok.
2006-11-30 23:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by kristen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has issues these days but if hes hiting you u shold just leave him and find someone else if hes not then u should try and work it out with him. u should go for a holday somewhere and spend time with him. if everything fails then hard luck theres heaps of fishs in the sea which will love u and be with you
2006-11-30 23:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by lena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I have been with mine for 3years and we just got married in August. He gets on my nerves all the time and we constantly fight but we both have our issues and don't want to be with anyone else or be alone. If you break up for any reason and then you wind up getting back together then its meant to be but I wouldn't recommend that because it will cause issues especially if either one of you look for something else in place of what you are missing which is each other. Just hang in there.
2006-11-30 23:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by shaydzofluv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There could be another thing that's bothering him. Or you just irritate each other for some reason. Try to talk it out. I'm sorry. I really don't know what to say. But even if I try words of comfort, they don't really matter if they are false words. The only advice is genuine advice, and I hope this turns out to be Ok. And it will. Everything will be allright!
-hitzusen
2006-11-30 23:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by hitzusen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is an emotional abuser. Please read up on passive aggressive behavior and narcissistic personality disorder.
This site saved me from jumping:
http://www.websitetoolbox.com/tool/mb/kimmyr11
Its a trustworthy site I discovered in 2002. It's an eye opener. Also see the main webpage www.passiveaggressive.homestead.com
2006-11-30 23:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the club... I dont understand why... Im going through the same thing.. Ive try to break away,,, but its hard.. I feel that these feelings are making me unhappy.. but I dont know what to do..
2006-11-30 23:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some couples are fighters....but sounds like you want out...you dont need to have another man inorder to get out of this relationship...try the single life for awhile_
2006-11-30 23:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither of you understand what love is, nor experienced it yet.
If he loved you, he couldn't treat you that way.
If you knew what love was, you would realize he doesn't love you, and end the relationship without shedding a tear.
2006-11-30 23:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋