Just interested in knowing how people view a non-married relationship to being married? Which do you prefer and why? How do you view the other side, either as lucky, foolish, or elsewise?
2006-11-30 15:03:02 · 18 answers · asked by Avander 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not much marriage is just a ceremony i have lived w/ two girls and its pretty much marriage but not such a biggie if you break
2006-11-30 15:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by groovergabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aside from the obvious answers about a marriage license there are the less obvious but equally important things like:
You can't put someone you are living with on your group insurance at work.
You are not a couple in the eyes of the law except in the states that have common law marriage.
Any children you have are considered illegitimate (bastards).
Living together means either party can just walk away at any time without any explanation or recriminations.
You can not own property together as husband and wife.
No alimony in the states that allow for it.
And the biggest minus to me is the knowledge that you do not love each other enough to commit to a life long relationship, so why are you wasting your time?
2006-11-30 23:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by nesmith52 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel more "safe" with my husband being my husband, then when he was my boyfriend. In my eyes, when we were just boyfriend and girlfriend, we were in the relationship to see where it went, to see what might happen, what might come along. Now that we are married, I see it in a point of now, Where we are going, we will get there together....Now what happens, happens to both of us, together, and what ever comes along, we will solve it together. We are still our own selfs, but also now a true part of eachother. I feel that the petty little fights wont lead to a breakup now. He truly loves me for every part of me. Where as when we were dating, I always wondered what would happen after the little fights. Would he love me less, want someone else?
I feel now as a wife, that I truly found that one person, who will go to the end of the world and back with me. I did feel part of that when he was my boyfriend, but now it is sooo much stronger. I dont think marriage is just a piece of paper. It was a way to tell the whole world, to tell God, WE LOVE EACHOTHER.
2006-11-30 23:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by BeckyKay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the difference between marriage and being together is just a piece of paper i have been with my boyfriend for 13 years and hes been married before and i have never been married and yet i feel i dont need to be married if the man i love is still with me and doesnt want to go anywhere so if i had a choice i would prefer to be married but i still love him and feel like i am married
2006-11-30 23:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by michellemadlinger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One you can just walk out. The other is more difficult to leave. One is a vow. a promise. a contract. The other is a word. Neither is foolish. And lucky would depend on which has managed to find the stronger love..
2006-11-30 23:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question. I do not know if you call it lucky because I do not see any luck just living under the same roof.
Foolish, could be considered.
Elsewhere could also be considered, because I have been there and done that.
If a person has never been in the shoes then you are not going to get a straight and honest answer.
Good Luck
2006-11-30 23:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In addition to a piece of paper, there are some other advantages to marriage. Insurance rates, taxes,you can have a say so if your partner becomes extremely ill or injured. this is not always the case if you live together.
2006-11-30 23:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by loveseat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together is nothing compared to marriage. In marriage you make an oath to stay together forever (despite divorce) and it is much more intimate. Couples who live together before getting married have a higher rate of divorce. Marriage is way better.
2006-11-30 23:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ana Erikson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's a committed relationship, the only difference between that and marriage is the legal agreement. I just think it's great when people are in a committed relationship regardless if they are married or not.
2006-11-30 23:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
an expensive piece of paper, and a tax break. that's the only difference.You can give someone a lifelong commitment and not marry them, if the feelings are there the feelings are there. Look at Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn, never married, completely happy!
2006-12-01 01:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by justadream 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a peice of paper...and if you live in a state that doesn't recognize commonlaw, then it gets the legalities in order for insurance and various other benefits....I personally am legally married, and it does have some significance in showing the level of commitment (to some degree)....but it shouldn't ever change your relationship
2006-11-30 23:06:18 · answer #11 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋