I'm in my last semester of school and find myself alone at school, always. Its funny, because i'm very popular, but i just cannot relate to any of those kids. I am kind to everyone and know pretty much every single person at the school. Its just when i go to lunch or something, there is no one group where I fit in. All my life i have been the one to approach others and be left the outsider listening in. That's mostly why I decided to graduate a year early. I moved here my freshman year from the other side of the country, played football for the school, but just have not made a single real friend, just 2,000 kids who say hi to me in the halls and occasionally invite me to parties. I am always alone, and i have more than gone out of my way for others. They all know who I am, but none of them know me, or care to. Am I really alone in this?
2006-11-30 15:01:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that's just it, i've tried and i've tried. I call people up, invite them over, but the hi and thanks for the salsa and chips is all i ever get. I have a best friend, but he's 3000 miles away.
As for the succesful loner, i am working on my second novel, maybe this one will get published:)
And to all of you, thanks for your warm and thoughtful responses.
2006-11-30 15:10:57 · update #1
labrin, no it was not that way at my other school, and i have talked to my football friends, and they're good kids, but no matter what i have done over the past three years, i have just never really felt accepted by them. I guess what i'm saying is at practice they would cheer me on as much as anyone, but when it comes to lets go to the beach friday, its alway "sorry i have other plans." Today i came over to a sophmore to chat at lunch, and he wasn't trying to be mean, but first thing out of his mouth: "Where are all your friends." And then i thought about it, what friends?
2006-11-30 15:21:37 · update #2
thanks Person, same here:)
2006-11-30 15:32:23 · update #3
thankyou Bonita, you seem to be much in the same boat. I really hope this new acquaintance comes through for you.
2006-11-30 15:49:42 · update #4
im the exact way. if you see me you'd think that im full of friends which is b/c i know a lot of people. at least you still have a best friend. i've been like this for 4 years and im to the point where i've had it. i've posted questions on this b/4 but i had to find the answer within myself. i think it has to do with the way people are nowadays. people are more concerned about themselves. im currently in college and im to the point where i want to transfer b/c this is not the "college experience" that i want. my "friends" go out all the time and never invite me. when i eat alone people pass me by and say "why are you by yourself." yet, they never invite me to eat with them. the ones who do exclude me from their conversation. people also see that im alone but their scared to approach me. they rather talk about me than make a move. lately i've spoken to someone who i think maybe is in the same situation. im just getting to know her but i feel we have potential to become better friends. i think that you need to stop talking to the popular people b/c they have a lot of friends and its unlikely that you'll be close to them. speak to people you feel may be lonely, you may end up helping them instead... hope it works...good luck!!!!
2006-11-30 15:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just on a higher level you are there teacher you are just more advance than they are have the same problem my self have a whole bunch of people around all the time but still real lonely all the time because yet to find a real connection,keep the faith,you have some thing great to contribute to this world so keep socializing ,until you find your soul mates.
2006-11-30 15:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by lucky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The last four lines are a universal truth, aren't they? This is the way I read the poem. Nor do I feel "alone" is in the literal, or mundane sense. I won't make assumptions about whether or not this is subjective--because the inner self is always alone. The implication is certainly there in the first eight lines, but don't you prefer the reader to relate to it in their unique way? The depth of oneself is always a "lone" spirit, I believe. That's what it means to me. Thanks for sharing. Edit: angel baby & opercats--did you READ: "But you never get lonely?" To relate in a unique way is qjuite different than projecting, don't you think? Edit: Dondi>Dear me. No value to "free verse?" Perhaps you prefer rhyme, which is an indication of the amateur. This was a beautifully written poem, & "puffing" gives no credibility. I am a published poet (WOW!) & your critism was not only incorrect, it was rude.
2016-05-23 06:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it the same situation in your previous school? well sometimes being new, people expect you to make the first move as most of them are comfortable in their own groups of friends. It takes time to know someone and are you willing to invest the time and effort to get to know these people? Remember it takes two to tango and if you care enough to know them, i am sure there people out there who will reciprocate. It's not about fitting in, it's about being able to relate and connect to people on a personal level. have you triend talking to a specific individual -maybe someone from your footbal team first...
2006-11-30 15:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can try really talking to people. Have some meaningful, personal conversations. Share some personal things about yourself. That's definitely one way that you can become closer to people. For me, I don't really feel like I need a lot of friends, as long as I have one or two "real" friends who really know me, that's enough. Message me back, and maybe we can talk on MSN sometime.
2006-11-30 15:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I've been feeling very similarly about my situation at school. I'm in my first semester of college, and I only have one person here that I consider a friend--we're not even close. I've wondered if its something about me, but lately I've felt like I just don't belong here. It's nice to know there are others like me!
2006-11-30 15:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I so understand you. A person with this good heart, but no one is a real friend to you. That sounds like me. All I can say is that, maybe they are afraid to get to know you or either they just really feel you have better things to do than them. Things will get better, just find a nice hobby and relax. Good things come to those who wait......unfortunately, I'm still waiting. lol
2006-11-30 15:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by truetaurus86 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you are alone, when you are the one approaching others. One fine day, keep out approaching, just sit back, there will be one or two who will notice this, they will be coming forward to make friendship with you. At the present, every moment you are alone, just pray in your heart and ask the mighty lord to be with you.
2006-11-30 15:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is exactly my life. I cannot figure it out either.I have never had a friend in my life, and I am old. Yet I am friendly to everyone. people do not seem to want to be with me.I look forward to the answers you get.
good luck
2006-11-30 15:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't. There are people who care about you everywhere. And even if there's just one person who can tell you they love you...... Don't worry, you'll find a terrific companion someday, you've just been having a hard time finding someone worthwhile.
-hitzusen
2006-11-30 15:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by hitzusen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋