How do I not let this bother me?

Question

My fiance of 2 years is leaving me because he believes I have cheated on him. I HAVE NOT!! He has a recording of him and I and the TV. He said that it is not his voice and that I had two guys here. Then he listened to it again, and realized it was his voice and the TV. He is now accusing me of doing it with the comcast sales guy. I am not that type of person. I have been cheated on and know how it feels. I couldn't demean myself nor could I hurt him. I have done everything I could to help him and us. He had major surgery at the begining of our relationship and when his disability ran out I supported him financially and encouraged him to do good for himself. He finally got a job 4 weeks ago and now he is leaving. I know he is just insecure because in all of his major relationships the woman cheated on him. He thinks I am into weird stuff and I am not. I just want to spend the rest of my life with him and have a normal happy relationship. I know I can't, how do I not let this bother me

Answer 1

just move on...there are too many people in this world for you to have to worry about this stuff. plus to me it sounds like he has too many problems of his own and is not ready to handle a relationship. plus now that he has a job and is all of a sudden leaving...well i dont know if that raises a red flag to you but to me it looks a little fishy like maybe he was using you. i hate to say that though b/c i dont know your relationship but you can only be the judge of that. also another issue would be TRUST. i know you've heard it, we all have. if you dont have trust in a relationship well then forget about it. well obviosuly he doesnt trust you so just move on and find you a guy who will trust you and understand you better. also maybe you need to rethink about WHY all of his past girlfriends have cheated on him. ive heard that sometimes people are drove to cheat. if he acted like this with all of his ex girlfriend, maybe thats why they cheated. maybe its him that has the problems with trust and not just b/c of being cheated on. (like you said, you have given him no reason to think you would cheat, u r not like that---it is him). this is not one of those situations where you can earn back trust either, you did nothing to lose it. bottom line you know you didnt cheat and you cant change the way a person thinks so the best thing would just be to move on and hope one day he will learn what trust means.

Answer 2

He seems kinda off a little bit... If you have given him no reason to not trust you , maybe he is accusing you because he is the one out doing it.. I'm only saying that from personal experience.. When they accuse all the time, it was usually them doing the cheating... I hate to say that but that seems to be the way it goes.. If you dont think he is the one cheating, just sit him down and ask him why he thinks you are cheating on him.. Try to get him to tell you specifally what.... He probably wont be able to come up with anything, and if he does they will be off the wall stuff that doesnt make any sense.. At least that is what happened to me.. Good Luck girl.... Hope everything works out..

Answer 3

It's okay to let this bother you. It sucks to be accused of something, especially when it's not true. It sounds like your fiancee has some self esteem issues, which is sad. If you really want this to work out, you need to convince him that you truly love him for who he is. Confront the problem. Fight! Win!
My grandmother used to say, "When you find the devil messin' in your business, you look him in the eye and meet him head on. You can't wrestle him to the ground 'til you get a hold of him first."

Answer 4

Let him Leave! Jealous people scare me because they can flip at any time. You'll realize that you will be better off without the Drama...can you imagine yourself married to a man who accuses you all the time for the next 50 years?

Answer 5

Oh my. It's obvious he's the insecure one. Maybe this is his way of backing out of marriage w/ what he thinks is a reasonable excuse. He doesn't want to admit he was wrong about his accusation. You've done all you can, & you can't change his nature. It's up to him now. Maybe write him a letter & pour your heart out. Tell him if he really cares about you he'll trust you & that you've never done anything to betray him. Good luck!

Answer 6

Sounds like he is looking for a reason to leave...sometimes those who are cheating accuse their significant others of cheating to get out!!!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Ohhhh sugar. This sounds so much like a fellow who used you when he needed you and now is discarding you now that he doesn't. It looks to me like he is just using the affair as a very poor excuse to get out of the relationship.
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Answer 9

Have you ever heard the saying "No one is more afraid of a robber than a thief?"

He is cheating on you and feeling guilty to the point he is making up affairs for you.

Answer 10

What weird stuff are you referring to? It sounds like you might not have been happy w/ him anyway b/c he is too insecure. He needs help if he is going to be happy with any woman. Also, your values need to match, and if you aren't into the "weird" stuff, why be with him?