Is this person a real friend?

Question

Says is like family, talks on phone if have problems, but if busy and I say I am sick, feel like I am going to faint, or I am worried abt something, etc., person will call/email whenever he feels like it. Says I "always have problems." Darn right I do--I have hypoglycemia which is dangerous when one is feeling bad. I also get extremely upset at times which is not good for my heart; it starts racing very very fast.

I feel a true friend will not say "you always have problems" or seem to think in the back of their mind that I am ok and just ignore me and talk to me some time later, even the next day. Prime example, I said I am sweaty, feel sick. Person does not call, e-mails next day. Was busy w/ family? Ok, still can call. Family knows me & knows situation. Doesn't care if I am ok or assumes I am?? Cannot spare 5 minutes? This is no friend in my opinion. Should I ditch this fair weather friend? If so, how?

Answer 1

Sounds like a very self-centered person who doesnt have a clue how to be a REAL friend.

This person is a loser, they are NOT your friend.

Answer 2

There are many types of friends. One you can just laugh with and have a good time. Another one who always makes you smile. And another one who will listen to you. I know what it's like when it seems a friend doesn't seem to care that much about your problems. It hurt me when my friend couldn't even tell I was crying while I was telling her my problem. But we can't expect people to understand one another like that. You can't ditch a friend either, by the way. It's impossible. A friend you've made is a memory of a special time, and something to embrace with nostalgia later on.
-hitzusen

Answer 3

I dont want to be ugly, but how often do you complain about being sick. I have lupus and I also have a plate and 14 pins and screws in oe of my legs. I have some days when I cannot even get out of bed......But I know that my friends and family would get tired of hearing about it.... I have a friend who once old me.."Positive things happen to Positive People" I try to keep that in my mind each day. People get tired of negative things and drama...Do you listen to your friend and your friends problems??
Do you and this person share the same interests and when you are feeling well, do you hang out and have a good time??? If you do, the keep your friend and keep your ailments on the down-llow.... I know I sometimes get mad at myself for feeling bad all the time..........And get to feeling better. Are you seeing a doctor to get you blood sugar regulated????

Answer 4

Sometimes people do not deal well with others who are ill. He may not be sure what to say to you. He may be a friend but he may not be prepared to help you through your bad times. He may not have those skills. I would think long and hard before ditching him, friends are hard to come by.

Answer 5

A friend is always there for you and a friend always cares. A friend will build up your spirits and not take you down. Should you ditch this person - note: I did not say "friend", that is something you have to decide.

Answer 6

i say your friend isnt that much of a good friend. but you shouldnt ditch your friend. they just need someone to socialize with and tell their innermost secrets with and talk about their problems with.

Answer 7

no honey you need to just leave them alone becuase when you need thyem there not going to be there they might say oh im here for you i got your back hmp then just when you need them the most they act like they never met you from day 1

Answer 8

Just tell your friend how you feel. Maybe your "friend" doesn't realize how they are acting.

Answer 9

No and you can find you a better friend!Goodluck

Answer 10

you haven't tell us what you do to in return to your friend, he might have a genuine reason for not being able to help.