I have two real best friends of mine, Kelsey and Alex, But recently it's become just Alex who's my best friend. A new girl came to town about four months ago, And basically she's become Kelsey's new best friend and I've been replaced. They do everything with each other everyday, And I can't even do anything with Kelsey since she's always busy with this other girl. She rarely visits me and our other friends at lunch anymore, And if she does then the other girl and more girls come and take her away. She's replaced all our pictures of us with ones of her and the other girl. I can't really confront her on it since I have a feeling she'll use my 'Being best friends with Alex' against me. I know she can have other friends, But that doesn't mean you isolate your other ones! What should I do? Thanks for the help<3
2006-11-30 14:50:56 · 7 answers · asked by Kirstin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know it's tough when that happens but how about talking to her and just letting her know you miss having some time to hang out with her. Maybe you could suggest that the two of you plan something to do together... go to the mall? go for a walk whatever it is you both like to do and then to show that you see she is building another new friendship make an additional plan to get together with all your friends both Kelsey and Alex and suggest including the new girl. You can get to know her too and you can all find out what you have in common and make more friends. I hope it works out, I know having lots of girlfriends can be fun but can be hard work too, sometimes girls don't get along perfectly I'm afraid your experiencing that right now.
2006-11-30 14:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by jamesnjenifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this is so painful when this happens. That being replaced feeling and if you go to them about it they are just going to get pissed off. Sometimes...all good things must come to an end. Something you dont want to hear but it is the truth. Always love and cherish the times you spent with her. Try not to get to upset or pissed off everytime you see them because that will only make things worse. I am sorry this has happened. Talk with Alex keep them close
2006-11-30 23:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay-
Their is a changing of the guard per say.
Dear you need to move on. Honestly, and with out any fanfair.
Quietly, exit this friendship and move to another person, outside of that circle of friends.
Real friends, don't act or behave that way. EVER!
Maturity is a serious issue here. I would just find better people that always bring you UP. that is what real friends do. ALWAYS>
Girls are cruel and mean! So be prepared for being attacked, its a power struggle, it really has very little to "do" with you. So stop them in their tracks, with phone calls to their parents about their behavior. Since they trust you still, they will never know, that your not really worried about your friend.
2006-11-30 22:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the same problem with my ex- best friend once the new girl came she wanted to act different so I just forgot about her I tried confronting her and she just said i'm not acting different and was still hanging with the new girl I just let her hang with the new girl!Good luck just go find a new best friend.
2006-11-30 23:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Natasha♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get out of Dodge? Join the Air Force, see the world,
develop a totally new perspective, acquire a second profession at no cost to you!
2006-11-30 23:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force a friendship. a friendship is there or it is not.
few friendships are life long.
be grateful for the time you had with that friend and remember the fond memories.
but it is time to move on.just smile and be happy with you new friends.
2006-11-30 22:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
invite them both to do something. all of you can be friends. Tell her you miss her.
2006-11-30 22:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Just Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋