have the baby?
2006-11-30 14:50:15 · 25 answers · asked by focused 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Probably not, depending on his character. What I always wonder is why these guys don't realize that when they have unprotected sex with someone, there's the chance of making a baby. If he's going to be upset, he should be mad at himself. How dare he get you pregnant,and then expect you to give up your child because he's inconvenienced!
You don't want this kind of person to raise your child. Get the child support, and make a life without him. I feel sorry for his son.
2006-11-30 14:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was one of the few lucky ones out there. I got pregnant (he has no other kids), I was 22, he was 20. He was in college, etc. Not too thrilled about it. I wrote him a letter and gave him an out, telling him that I would understand if he left, yadda, yadda, yadda. 12 yrs later we are still together and he is a great dad. I sometimes have 'guilt' talking about this b/c so many people around me (friends & family) have kids with deadbeat dads. If he has made it clear that he does not want another kid, let him go. It is much easier on the child for him to have never been around than to come and go in the baby's life as he pleases. You would be saving yourself heartache and strife in the long run, and saving that precious baby from having to see his or her daddy walk out and promise to call or come by and not do it. If he does make a chnage and decides to be a man, let him know that there are some ground rules, and that you will not tolerate your kid being disappointed or neglected because of him. Good luck, hon. It will be a hard road, but it is truly the greatest blessing and joy to be a mommy!
2006-11-30 15:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by cute_niss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the man. Us women try to change the way men think and feel all the time. The truth is we can not change anything but ourselves.
You can make a decision to move on in your life and take care of this baby yourself with or without the father. You can take him to Court and make him pay child support, but not even a Judge can force him to be a "dad".
I'm sorry that it has to be this way for you and this precious child. My father left me when I was five and he didn't look back. It took a long time to realize the impact it made on my life and ways I can change that.
I hope and pray it all works out and that this man comes around to being a good father and a Dad.
Good Luck and Take Care
2006-11-30 14:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is not happy he should have used protection! I wish you the best of luck and hopefully he will grow up and be a real man and be there for you. But if not you can do it and I am sure you'll meet someone worth while once you leave this jerk for good. It is not your fault or the baby's keep you in prayer ok.
2006-11-30 15:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by calieyecandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made your decision and that's all the control you have over the situation.
You can't make a person change; not their mind, their beliefs, their needs or their wants.
If he is going to change, it will be completely his decision. He would have to decide that despite resenting you for chosing what you did (which is totally and completely your right), HE will still have the integrity it takes to be a father.
Focus your energies on yourself and your child. I have a feeling this baby will need extra love.
Good Luck!
2006-11-30 15:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it. I have heard of husbands that change their mind and become happy about it. But then I knew a lady who was preg and her husband left her cause he didn't want it! I had that happen twice. 2 pregnancy's and neither kid has a dad that they've ever seen! Guys take off alot of times. They don't seem as mature or able to cope with the unexpected like women. Men are strong physically, but women have the upper hand mentally. That is why I know you will to the best thing for you and your baby. I know you will be ok. I know, that you and your baby will be just fine.
2006-11-30 14:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not very likely at all, it is of course possible, but please do yourself a favor and don't bank on it. Prepare yourself for the worst case scenario, the one where you raise this child alone.
If you have discussed this with him and he has made absolutely clear that he does not want you to keep this child, and therefor has no intention of assisting you if you choose to do so. You should assume COMPLETE and total responsibility should you choose to do this alone. Cut your losses now, and be glad you have seen his true character this early in the game. You will survive and you and your child will thrive; and after all there is someone else out there for both you and your child.
2006-11-30 15:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by mchlmybelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what.. The other people are not telling you positive feed back.... I think that if the guy really loves you, he cant say that he doesnt want it. He needs to respect the fact that you want to keep this. You should talk to him and ask him why he isnt thrilled anout having a baby. I think that he will change he mind once he sees the beautiful ball of JOY that he produced with you and things should change.
2006-11-30 15:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by kaitie baby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably not. Don't try and "keep" him by using the baby. If he doesn't want to stay with you, forget him. Keep the baby because you want to. Hopefully you have a good support system to help you raise the baby without him. Good luck!
2006-11-30 14:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by bookworm1171 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. But that does not mean he won't take care of it. It really depends on the type of man that he is. Whether he steps up to the plate or if he will run and hide cannot be determined by us, only you know. Why would you want to have a baby with a guy who doesn't want one. Move on to someone new.
2006-11-30 14:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by MRod 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋