My daughter is 14 and lives with her Dad about 3000 miles away from me. He has sole legal and physical custody of my daughter.
I call her almost everyday when she gets home from school. (on my lunch hour). I am worried about her because she needs help with school and my ex does not give her the time and attention that she needs.
How do I deal with this constant worry that I have in my mind? She wants to me to come visit her over Christmas and help her with her Math Final which is a project - to build something to scale.
I am not sure if I should go or not. On the one hand, if I don't go I will feel like I am neglecting her. On the other hand, if I do go I will end up staying with her and my ex and may be pushed into going back to them.
My ex had been pressuring me to get back together with him, but I don't see changes in his abusive, controlling behavior so I have been holding back.
2006-11-30 14:46:46 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't have to get back with him to get closer to her.
Can you work and live closer to her?
Over is over. SO what's the problem?
You will need to have faith in your child.
Fourteen is old enough to know the "right from wrong" mom!
Get some information and offer to help by paying for a afterschool program of something.
2006-11-30 14:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go visit your daughter. You cannot be controlled by your ex unless you allow yourself to be controlled. If your daughter and her dad live 3000 miles away, how do you know her situation is that awful? Teenage girls are prone to drama and histrionics. While she may not be completely happy with her family situation as it exists now, how terrible can it be if your ex has custody? If he's neglegent, how did your daughter come to live with him so far away from you?
You're painting an incomplete picture here. It's difficult to advise you appropriately when so much of the truth is being omitted.
2006-11-30 14:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move back and find your own place and take his *** back to court for soul custody. If he was abusive to you then he will be to your daughter. I am sorry but I would not be able to live 3000 miles away from my kids. Stand firm and Take control of the situation. I know its hard but hand it over to God and let him be your guide. My prayers are with you and your daughter.
2006-11-30 15:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have her come and visit you? Or If you must go see him, try to stay in a hotel if you can afford it, or stay with family, and if you have to stay with him then set boundries. And if he's abusive, then take the matter to the court.
2006-11-30 14:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by R-Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋