We have 4 kids & he has not been at home very much AT ALL. He always says that he's going to a friends house & our friends & his family deny everything that I know for sure that he does. I have found out that my husband has gone out to the dance without me. He would not like it if I went to the dance by myself. So, I want to make him mad. Should I go to the dance by myself? What should I do so he stays home more?
2006-11-30 14:43:30 · 12 answers · asked by tigrababy2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
An eye for and eye usually doesn't work in marriages. I would do something just to get back at him.
What I would do, to make him stay home more...visit www.victoriasecret.com - buy something sexxi
One night, send the 4 kids to a babysitter (even if you have to split them up - get them out of the house)...clean the house really good, cook his favorite meal, spice it up by dressing the table with candles and use the best dishes (you know the ones you save for company) have your something sexxi on - don't sit across from him, sit next to him, feed him little bits off your plate, make it sexxi, give him kisses...when dinner is through take his hand, lead him to the bedroom where you have prepared the bed with rose petals and set a bottle of wine with glasses next to the bed with strawberries and whip cream, give him a glass of wine, massage his shoulders, feed him strawberries, dress him with whipcream and lick it off of his "special" places...then WHOMP the hell out of him. Do this at least 3 times a week but never let him know its coming....he will always want to come home cause he wont know what night he is going to get this treat!
2006-11-30 14:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by ~*FreeSoul*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are going out, that he needs to stay home with the kids. If he begins to get mad, be up front with him and tell him that you know that he does not to his friends, that he goes out dancing without you.
If he acts like that he does not understand what you are talking about, tell him what is good for the goose is good for the gander.
I have been there and done that, and I know that it is not right.
Show him how it feels for you being home all the time taking care of the kids all alone.
I hope this wakes up your husband.
Good Luck
2006-11-30 22:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making him mad won't fix it. Obviously something is going on at home because he does not want to be their. He must not want to be with you. If he did he would ask you to get a babysitter and take you to the dance. Try to have a think about things from his point of view, try to look objectively at the situation , is home a good place for him or a chore? Is the relationship fun or a nagging nightmare? I am not saying it is your fault - just worth thinking about.
2006-11-30 22:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the significance is with "the dance" or him going alone, and you didn't really specify the things that you know for a fact he has done....what are they, and do you actually have proof? And no, you should not try to make him mad just because he made you mad....two wrongs don't make a right....and childish behavior will only brew more childish behavior.
2006-11-30 22:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously sit down and talk to your husband explain how it hurts you when he is not home spending time with you and the children. ask why and how to fix the problem hopefully if all goes well yaw may end up at the dance together Good Luck!
2006-11-30 22:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by tiny tott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to make him mad, why don't you talk to him, (Talk, not yell) and ask him what is going on. Ask him how he would feel if you were doing the things he was. Tell him how all of this makes you feel. Getting "even" may feel nice at the time, but it doesn't make you a better person.
2006-11-30 22:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Aunie Stina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
next time he says he wants u and wants to do things with u get a babysitter, quit saying ur tired and griping about the kids and then maybe he will take u to the dance. try dressing up for him, acting out a fantasy with him, have try to please him more, try a romantic dinner without the kids. etc..... he is tired of your b/s and finds his friends to be better company
2006-11-30 22:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him when you can both be calm, maybe get a sitter. Whatever happens you need to be there for your kids and so does he. The kids are the most important in all of this. Remember they didn't ask to be born and they love and need both parents.
2006-11-30 23:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by Gerbear45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure..go dance away,
just make sure he's watching the kids that night & you come
home really late..
2006-11-30 23:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go to the dance, you'll see him with another woman.
2006-11-30 22:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋