women, just give ur man what he wants in bed no matter what it is and then u can quit worrying that he is cheating. but most women would rather argue for an hour than do a 15 minute sex act. WHY????????
2006-11-30 14:37:50 · 10 answers · asked by keithy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in this question the man is more than willing to do whatever his woman wants sexually, gives her oral till she orgasms, back rubs, massages, some nights cuddling without sex, ect...
2006-11-30 14:44:08 · update #1
this question is not about my relationship but to women in general
2006-11-30 14:50:56 · update #2
What a great question! Seriously ladies, if you love your man, this question makes a hell of a lot of sense!
2006-11-30 14:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am not asking just for a 15 minute quickie, I know that I am getting older but I hope that I last longer than that.
I am sure there are women out there will tell you the same thing about their man, but sometimes this is not all people complain about. I am not doubting your word that this does not happen to you, but it is a total difference with my wife and I.
I have been married 38 years, and the only thing we do is sleep under the same roof, but not the same bedroom.
If people have this type of issue than nothing has happened over 8+ years, then yes going out might be the right answer.
Do not discuss counseling because there is none, and you cannot make someone go if they do not want to go. Just like smoking if a person does not want to smoke, then you have to let them be their own self.
Good Luck.
2006-11-30 22:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to take a look at what you are doing in bed if you are getting hour long arguments over sex. Most women like sex. I think you need to worry more about making her happy than griping at her and nagging her about sex. Just try treating her like a queen and pleasing her and see if that doesn't turn it around. Good luck!
2006-11-30 22:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their boundaries, and people should find out what those are before they get married, even if they aren't *doing* it before they get married. People should be mature enough to have a conversation about it, and think carefully about what's important to them, and whether or not those needs are compatible. For example, if you absolutely must have oral sex in order to feel fulfilled, you'd better find out whether or not your partner has any hangups on doing it before you get there. If you like to dress up in women's clothing, you'd better find out whether or not your partner can get into that. What ever it is, find out before you get there.
But marriage is also about sacrifice, on both sides. If something will please your partner, you should do it, or at least try. On the other hand, if you want to do something that's unhealthy, painful, or humiliating in the eyes of your partner, you should love them enough to sacrifice that desire to the marriage. Not getting what you want might be a *reason* people cheat, but it's no excuse.
Why not concentrate on the things your partner is willing to give or do joyfully, instead of extorting things from her/him with the threat of infidelity? That's not conducive to a healthy relationship, inside or outside of the bedroom.
Learning to give and learning to control yourself both have equal merit.
2006-11-30 23:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously something is lacking in the relationship if she doesn't feel compelled to jump your bones when you want it. Maybe you don't pleasure her the way she should so why should she get hot & sweaty for nothing. Yes, for nothing. We have needs too. Maybe because it's the 15 minute act that turns her off. Who wants to get sweaty for only 15 minutes.
2006-11-30 22:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Soap Star Junkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the principal of the thing. Just because i don't give him sex doesn't mean he gets the right to cheat. An example: He doesn't clean up the dinner plates, he doesn't take care of the children, he doesn't put the tolit seat down. there are a million things that guys don't do. Yet you expect a woman just to give herself sexualy to a man, especaily one who doesn't deserve it, and her only reward is that he won't cheat? how exactly is that fair at all?
2006-11-30 22:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by R-Girl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Men, treat us right to begin with and we won't want to argue, we won't question you, and you will get more in bed than you ever THOUGHT you wanted without even having to ask!
2006-11-30 22:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you asking for? Is it imoral? Think does this go against her beliefs?
2006-11-30 22:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a big trust issue with you two...
only you can handle this one...
2006-11-30 22:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree.
2006-11-30 22:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋