the baby
2006-11-30 14:37:19 · 22 answers · asked by focused 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No,
2006-11-30 14:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
First of all, HOW can anyone on this site suggest that they know what is in the mind or heart of this dad? That blows me away, from one sentence you give advice to a lonely pregnant women that is in trouble with one simple word, "no"..
This is my opinion, we dont know anything about the father. All we know is that you said he really was not ready for ANOTHER child. Which leads me to belive he is a dad already. Is he a good father to the other child? Whatever type of dad he is to the other child, he will most likely be to the one on the way.
I will also say this. God said, " I will be the father of the fatherless.
Pray, seek God, he will help you in this time of need and confusion. I can understand what your going through. I know if must be hard. You surely feel alone and need loving arms to hold you. Let Jesus help, he will hold you and lead and guide you..
Hugs In Friendship
2006-11-30 14:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you cannot blame anyone for trepidation when it comes to having kids, its a big responsibility , a child changes your life, your life is no longer your own
not to mention the financial responsibility for the next 18 years. we all want to give our kids the best we can. some people are not ready to grow up and perhaps the baby's father recognizes these things in himself, but its too bad he is now a father ..I guess again huh?
he is communicating with you about his feelings
and as long as you 2 have communication thats a good sign
but try to understand.
also why were you
not using birth control? kids do NOT make a lousy relationship better but bring more love into a good one. good luck
2006-11-30 14:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I have a friend whose guy didn't want a baby. He was mad at her for wanting to keep it. He was upset she wouldn't give it away. she got ticked off. she is pregnant and supposed to be getting rid of stress, not inviting it in with guilt trips and immaturity. Plus she figured the baby derserves more than that. The baby deserves an atmosphere of love and and appreciation. She told him that he was not the father and to bugger off. That is what she did anyway.
2006-11-30 14:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Prepare yourself for the probability that he won't be loving or supportive or helpful.
Start building your support system NOW. This baby needs all the love it can get. It would be nice if the sperm donor did his part, but you need to plan in case he doesn't.
Establish paternity. Get liability for child support established. He needs to live up to his legal obligations even if he lets his moral ones fall by the wayside.
2006-11-30 14:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry mel, your baby's father got what he wanted...he got to have a one-night stand with a girl he convinced that she was special or something.
once he made his deposit, you were all over. not all guys are scumbags, just most of us.
i hope that this is a lesson learned, al-be-it, tragic, you are left holding the baby and his responsibility is done.
you have several options...adoption, suing him in paternity court for child support, raising the child on your own...
option 1: may be good if you are still very young, in school, out of school and no degree (hard to get one when you have responsibility).
option 2: lots of luck...if he doesn't pay, he goes to jail, and you still get no money
option 3: you now become a stay at home mom and hope the state welfare agency will help you to raise your child...
good luck...i will put on my prayer list...
2006-11-30 14:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I disagree with everyone....I do think he MAY when he sees the baby. I have an 8 month old and the changes in both my husband and myself are amazing...once that baby smiles at him, if his heart doesn't get warmed by that, then he's not worth keeping anyway.
2006-11-30 14:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes Definitley. My husband was not really too enthused about this pregnancy..I mean he was happy, but just didnt seem excited like me, until he finally got to go to the sonogram with me and saw the baby and found out we are havijng our first girl after 3 boys. HE was very excited then.
2006-11-30 14:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
maybe
i think if I was gonna consider having a child, she would have to be really smart, at least a little crazy, and at least ten years old. I might even have an extra mom type person for her that she would probably like and learn a lot from too.
2006-11-30 14:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Did he respond to his 'other children' that way?
Does he have unresolved 'issues' with your pregnancy? (?thinks you 'tricked' him into it?) Are you married to him? Is he married? (to you or someone else?)
Not every one melts at the sight of a baby. I wish you and your child the best.
2006-11-30 14:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Gran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he really loves you then that shouldn't really matter. In my opinion he got himself into this. He should stay when he sees the baby. Babies are SO cute and lovable.
2006-11-30 14:39:50 · answer #11 · answered by PMCQ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋