What do I need to do?

Question

My husbands exwife left her 5yr old son with us 8 months ago. We registered him in school in which he was attending with no absence. On Thanksgiving day she had him and decided to not give him back. This is not the first time she has decided to drop him off and take him as she pleases. She never has a stable home and is alway living with different men. Per divorce decree she has custodial rights but they both have joint custody of their 2 children. My husband says I can not call DCFS without actual evidence of abuse. What about the emotional and pshycological abuse of a childs learning years with her not having a stable home? What about her commiting a crime? She stole my husbands s.s.# and filed for a credit card under his name. She ran up the bill past the credit limit. What about a stolen gun in the house? What about her taking medication for bypolar scizophrenia? Would DCFS care about these things? Theres more to the story but not enough to write it all. Email: [e-mail]

Answer 1

You don't have to show abuse. If she drops the kids off with other people for months at a time, that is abandonment. If she is moving around and living with different guys, that is neglect.

Answer 2

your husband has more of a responsibility in this matter than you do. He has a responsbility to his children to make sure that they develop and grow up in an appropriate manner. How does your husband feel about what his ex is doing to the kids? Maybe if they still have a good relationship he can talk her into seeking some professional help for her mental health issues or low social survival skills. As you seem to be concerned about the situation, accumulate evidence on your own of all of the situations that may have had a negative impact, incase one day you are questioned on it.

Answer 3

Documentation is important. The next time she drops him off go to the courts and file then! Yes, if you have ideas that she may be using drugs by all means call DCFS. Pictures can be a big help in this matter too.

Answer 4

Your husband needs to take control of the situation, he needs to file criminal charges, get his *** back in front of the court and get full custody of this child. Please start keeping a journal, write everything down, if you give her enough rope she will hang herself. Contact CPS next time this happens and let them know of her actions, they will automatically give him custody until a hearing comes about. In the meantime, keep a journal. She should have been his with child abandonment along time ago. I REPEAT, your husband must take charge.

Answer 5

You guys need to go back to court and get sole custody. That little boy needs a stable home and doesn't sound like she's going to give him that. Good luck!

Answer 6

You need to get your husband to file an emergency custody order. She should not be allowed to bounce that child around.

Answer 7

Your husband needs to document all things and take her back to court and get custodial rights.....what about the other child..?????

Answer 8

1 option is that you & your husband can seek custody if it's that bad of an eviroment for the child

Answer 9

Your husband definitely needs to document everything she does. I know its hard but just bide your time and I promise you guys will end up with him.

Answer 10

go to the local child protective services and hire an attorney, i have been through this with my daughter so if u want to e-mail me we can talk, [e-mail]