Ok here I go I am 17 and I am pregnant and am a junior in highschool I just found out today I havent told my bf yet the bad part is my parents would prolly kick me out and school omg im already having a hard enough time now and my bf well hes 21 and i wont be 18 for a year and i dont have consent to have sex so he could get into trouble and im not ready for a baby yet i dont want to give it up yet i cant have an abortion without parents knowing and im so depressed right now i have these bad thoughts of suicide so does anyone have any advice for me and yea bad decision on my part to have sex im younger than him blah blah but i have been with him 3 years and love him to death and he loves me
2006-11-30 14:24:59 · 11 answers · asked by lil_hottie_devil_2003 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
tell him, and your parents, explain what you said here, you realize it was bad, you are NOT killing this baby, and you realize you can't do it on your own, you love them, and you want to do everything so that you and your baby have a succesful future.
2006-11-30 14:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_plumeria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all . . . tell your parents. You need help and believe it or not, they are your BEST help. You are NOT equipped to handle this alone.
You have difficult choices to make but FIRST. . .
plan on finishing school NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS
Choices:
Are you considering marriage? Can he support a family?
Abortion should NOT be an option. . . you will regret killing your unborn child for the rest of your life
Adoption can be done open or closed. In an open adoption you can help choose the adoptive parents and, in some cases, be a part of the child's life. Closed adoptions are done through an agency and your medical bills will be paid but you will not have contact with your child unless the child wants it when they are 18 or so years old (depending on state laws).
Lastly, you can keep the child. However, you will HAVE to have financial support from the father to make this seriously possible. You realize you are not just dealing with your child, you are dealing with your PARENT'S grandchild. They were NOT planning on raising another child, however, they will have some input as you are a minor.
Trust the folks that raised you. They have been there and raised you. They have experience (the one thing you do NOT have). This event was not planned but you KNEW it could happen.
The choices are tough. . . you need help with them. Get GOOD help. . . either from your parents, or pastor/priest, or school counselor, or mental health professional (but FORGET the abortion garbage that some will dish out).
It is still your child and your b/f's child so take your time. . . do NOT make hasty decisions and get on with life. You have to think for yourself and others (including your child) now.
2006-11-30 22:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine went through this when we were in high school at the age of 16. She told her boyfriend and he convinced her to get an abortion. Let me just say that was the biggest mistake of her life. She didn't tell her parents before she did it, but afterwards, they found out and were sooo devestated. Tell your parents, even though their reaction won't seem supportive at first, you're their baby and will do whatever it takes to help you. Tell a guidance counselor first if you want, Stop those suicidal thoughts pleeeaase. It's a difficult situation, but it will all come together for you guys, especially if he really loves you like you say he does. This baby will be a blessing!
2006-11-30 23:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by onitram5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... first you need to just sit down and have some relaxing alone time. After you are calm I suggest you tell you boyfriend and you parents right away. They will probably be mad at first, but it is better that you tell someone. You should think ahead and don't think of the bad decision you made. It doesn't matter what age you have a baby, you are still going to love it anyway.
Hope This Helps,
Best of Luck
2006-11-30 22:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, you need to tell your boyfriend and your parents. ASAP. I wish you wouldn't have to get an abortion but i believe thats what will probably happen. Many girls get pregnant young and think that they will get kicked out of their home but the parents end up being there for their daughter. Be strong and just tell them. Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-30 22:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will all work out---first off talk to your boyfriend and your parents---i know it is hard but it needs to be done. get yourself to a doctor b/c you need prenatal care--that is very important. Talk with a counseler, your boyfriend and your parents to decide what you want to do. Research and read up on all your options--being a young mother is very scary and hard but it can be done. I'm 18 and 7 months pregnant--and my b/f just turned 24. If you need any more advice just email me i'm here to help
2006-11-30 23:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by barbieisagoddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what state you are in, you may be able to get an abortion without telling your parents.
Best of luck
2006-12-01 09:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what they tell you, you must tell your boyfriend and your parents your parents know a lot more about babies than you do and they should love and support you through this. good luck
2006-12-01 01:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he did was against the law and he should go to jail. You are still a minor. You really have no choice but to tell your parents
2006-12-01 09:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow. uhh... tells your bf if he loves you...and tell your parents, or a counseler...
2006-11-30 22:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by u can't hear the music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋