I am 24 and currently in a 6 year relationship. Marriage is definately the next step that we will be taking within the next 2 years. I am writing to get this off my chest..Is it really wrong to marry for money? Well I'm not marryin' purely for money..maybe my love is based on money? I know to many it sounds low and disgusting or whatever..And thats fair enough 'cos we all have all own opinions. I know that many of you may say that he deserves better and that he deserves true love but if I was to break up with him, it would kill him.
He is very well off and treats me good and I don't want to end the relationship and struggle through life constantly thinking of bills, morgage payments etc. He does a lot for me and buys me nice things despite how materialistic that sounds. Do people sacrifice true love for financial comfort?..hrm what is true love..Don't they say that there are more there is more than one kindred spirit (or whatever u call it) for a person?..Please advice on this.
2006-11-30 14:14:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well u dient get with him just for the money. so that is a start, and maybe u can learn to love him. i mean after 6 yrs u been with him it couldnt be all for the money. i mean no one no matta how poor they dont want to be would stay with someone that long. so why not. and as for the guy who said most women will marry for money.. honey i dient i married what i thought was a broke man makin his way and his fam n my fam had money but we neither one was doin good when we started out, now after 13 yrs of just doin ok we now for the past yr been pretty well off.. we aint hurtin for nothing. we did it together
2006-11-30 14:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I have to say is : When you marry for money, you end up earning every penny. It's hard enough to stay committed to someone for a lifetime that you love, but if money is the only thing keeping you around, you will have to have the will power of a nun. Hope it's worth it. If you think leaving him now will kill him, how about a year from now or 2 years form now and so on, after he's vested more time in a loveless relationship. And if he ever found out you only married him for his money, how will that make him feel? Stop thinking about yourself and think about someone else for a change and stop thinking you're doing him any favors because you're willing to stay with him to stop him from hurting. That's just something you tell yourself to justify what you are doing. - OK, so I had a few things to add...................
2006-11-30 14:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing in life is love... and money will never buy you love or true happiness. Being with guy for 6 years without being in love with him must be hard. Don't you ever want to feel the true feeling of being in love with someone. That feeling is the best thing to be felt even more of a great feeling when the person you are in love with is in love with you. Money is nice, not working and being able to pay off bills and shop without looking at price tags are great, but being in love with this person is better than money will ever be...And if you do not love him by now you probably will not ever love him... Good luck
2006-11-30 14:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need security in a marraige, if you have been with him this long then you are not marrying him for money. Why can't you accept the fact that you deserved him and he loves you. People end marriages because of finances. Refuse his gifts and if you feel the same as when you were accepting his gifts then all is well. WHAT IS WRONG WITH MARRYING FOR A SENSE OF SECURITY, you have been together longer than most marraiges.
2006-11-30 14:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tonne B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No amount of money or material possesion can can equal the comfort and security that real love can give you....My husband and I had a really difficult time financially when we first got together....(Still tough going at times for that matter) We lived in our vehicle more than once...we had to sneak into truck stops to take showers...we pawned our things to be able to buy food...but, because we love each other the way we do, I wouldn't have traded a second of it for any amount of money. Neither one of us had to stay...we could have both went back home with our parents, or we had friends that we could have stayed with if one of us had decided to leave, but we loved each other enough to stick it out....
2006-11-30 14:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you know for sure that you are marrying partly for financial comfort, but life may not be all flowers and puppies forever. If you love him despite his money, try to imagine how you would react if there was no money and then you will know whether you are in it for the right reasons
2006-11-30 14:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not once hear you mention anything about how you really feel about him? All of your comments are related to what he does for you! If he did not have all that he has would you still be there? Love is a mutual thing and involves two people who are equally giving...which I did not hear that you were doing anything for him! Do u have any idea of what love really is?...I think its time for you to move around!
2006-11-30 14:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Dre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a good question...What if it stops? What if he only was generous and thoughtful UNTIL he married you? You have no guarantee to get the same guy after you marry.
OR- what if a disaster hit and he was broke? Would you cut and run? Is then when he discovers who you really are?
think about it.
2006-11-30 14:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by upside down 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women will in a heart beat. most times a woman will marry for financial security and then she feels that she no longer has to put out sexually and can spend the mans money as she pleases. well think about this would u marry this man if he were poor, could not work and u had to support the marriage. my guess is ur answer would be no
2006-11-30 14:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by keithy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You risk feeling unsatisfied later on in your marriage if you marry for money.
I don't think it's wrong. I just think you risk being unhappy and regretting marrying him once you're married and time passes.
I think it's possible if you both lead very independent lives from each other and don't expect a lot from each other.
2006-11-30 14:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋