I've been in a relationship for almost 10 yrs with an overweight girl. she had the bypass surgery 8 months ago and has lost over 120 pounds, which is fantastic & she looks sooooo sexy. She's getting alot of attention & i do understand that she's enjoying it. My problem is that she's not giving me any attention. I know it's time for her light to shine but why cant we shine together. I was there for her when she was huge & thru all her agony and pain. now she is totally stuck on herself. i always compliment her on her new look but she never have a compliment for me. Am i being selfish or do i deserve some attention too. The surgery has affected us both drastically, not just her, which i dont think she understands. please help.
2006-11-30 14:08:44 · 6 answers · asked by jlicious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Happens all the time with that surgery.....Turns people into new people.....good for some....bad for others......Lets that skinny womand trapped in that fat body free......WHEEEEEEEE......
Give her some time.....she will get over herself...after a while she will gain some of it back...Its all Good.
2006-11-30 14:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep a close eye on her. She has a new confidence and she might want to "experience" the world. And people can change horribly when they lose a lot of weight. You will end up hurt by the end of this, just be prepared.
2006-11-30 22:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the pendulum has swung all the way to the other side, and she needs to be brought back to the middle, tell her how you feel, and what you see, and most of all what you want to happen. Good on for her , but she needs to acknowledge the stellar friend she has. I do hope this works out for you.
2006-11-30 22:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need to do some serious thinking to yourself, & alot of serious talking with her...
that surgery not a permanent solution either...
make sure she realizes that she can mess it all up real easy...
2006-11-30 22:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give her the time...I know you have been there, and maybe she will move on from you, some do go overboard...she will come down to earth and back to you if she loves you...but you can not push her...........bjs
2006-11-30 22:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pretty much out of luck here.You're not being selfish, she is.
2006-11-30 22:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by EX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋