My boyfriend and I are still together. He is attending college, in Pre-med. He has a job at a clinic making 12.00 and hour and right before she is born he is getting a 1.50 raise. He wants this baby for sure, and says he will take it if I don't want to keep her. But I'm scared he wont let me see her. I'm 30 weeks pregnant at 15 years old. I am now at a school where I can graduate early and I am going to graduate in fall of 08' and year and half early. My dad got me scared that I'm going to regret keeping her because I'm going to look back on High school and regret everything.. But I do want her, that is what my heart wants. I guess I'm scared I will be like my real mom.. Crappy.. I do love her but she was more of a best friend than a mom.. I'm scared I wont give her everything she wants.. If i do give her up it will be to sombody I know.. And can see her whenever.. But I'm mixed up.. I love her so much..
Agian.. My heart tells me to keep.. My mind tells me no.. Help?
2006-11-30 13:57:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If i do keep I'm going to have to move in with my boyfriend.. And I would NEVER have my parents take care of MY own baby. That is compleatly irresponible. I hate girls that do that.
2006-11-30 14:09:27 · update #1
Do whatever your heart wants. remember the baby needs her mommy more then anyone else in this world. And believe me if you do keep her you won't be sorry you'll be a wonderful loving and caring mom. If you give her all your love then you will never be a crappy mom.
2006-11-30 14:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no easy answers. No matter what you do, you will regret your decision. My best advice:
See a private adoption counselor. You are too young to provide good mothering to a child, but that does not mean you cannot have a place in your child's life. You should be able to structure an adoption that allows you some role in your child's life but leaves the day-to-day and the stability to an older couple. There are many 35ish to 40ish year olds who are unable to have kids and would love and cherish your child and be able to provide so much financially, which leads to a healthier, better educated child.
You need to focus on having fun, growing up, getting a driver's license, prom, etc. Your boyfriend is too old for you and guilty of a crime. Don't depend on him for anything. Being pre-med does not mean he will get into med school! Most do not. Do what you know to be best for you and your child -- put the baby up for adoption.
2006-11-30 14:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by chattygirlchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything may be confusing you right now. part is because it is probably one of the biggest decisions that you are ever going to make, and two cuz your horomones are out of whack. you need to weigh out the pro's and cons of each situation. are your parents going to help you? sounds like your bf is going too. are you ready to give up pretty much everything that normal high school girls do to be completely devoted to your child. it happens a lot where a young adult has a child while still in school and lets her parents, raise it so that they can still have their "social" life. it is a tough decision, and more that likely you will eventually have regrets in whatever decision you make.
2006-11-30 14:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Joyous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do it, but not alone.
Find a center for teen parents were there are things like day care and career training. You are a kid and need to be a grown-up and care and provide for another life.
I strongly suggest breastfeeding, too. It is not always easy, but offers unique health benefits to both you and your child, is wonderful for bonding, and costs less money than formula.
2006-11-30 14:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Raina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People on this site will give you a wide variety of opinions.Consider them if you want,but the ultimate decision is yours.Don't let others make it for you.There isn't going to be a guillt free way out.Just try to remember whatever you chose,when you made the choice you did what you beleived was best for your child and yourself.
2006-11-30 14:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE YOUNG BUT IT'S POSSIBLE YOU CAN DO THIS. ON THE OTHER SIDE THERE ARE A LOT OF NICE PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO WOULD LOVE YOUR CHILD AND YOU'D MAKE THEM SO HAPPY. TRY TO THINK OF ALL OF THE PROS AND CONS ON THIS.
2006-11-30 14:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no ideas reader, so that you want to actully write the question so lets study it, like i suggested i do not study peoples minds, properly i do not study something else of the adult men yet i do not :)
2016-11-30 00:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋