My wife and I were married for almost three years. There were a lot of rough spots in the marriage especially when I almost cheated on her. In July she said she wanted a divorce. I have been trying to get her back ever since because I realized how much I really love her and would never hurt her again. She says she just wants to be friends but our marriage is over. I have had the feeling that she still has feelings for me. She won't talk to me about it, so I did something kind of mean. I told her that I didn't love her anymore. I did it so that I could get an honest reaction from her. When I did, she had to fight back tears.
2006-11-30 13:36:01 · 17 answers · asked by Joe d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're an a**... good luck tryin to explain to her that you just wanted to see her reaction.
You dont play with a woman's heart like that.
I dont blame her for not wanting you back- it was childish with the whole reaction thing and you almost cheated on her?
It's time for you to: GROW UP and suffer your consequences. She deserves some one better.
2006-11-30 13:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What if it was her who told you that, how would you feel?
You got her honest reaction- she was hurt. Next time be careful about the things that you say to your wife. You don't say things just because you want to test if she still loves you or not. Of course, she still cares for you and may be loves you a little bit, I mean you can't easily throw away 3 years of marriage. But the thing is, sometimes love just ain't enough to keep a couple together.
If you want her back , love her sincerely. But because you already told her you didn't love her anymore I won't be surprise if she wouldn't believe you if you tell her that you love her still-- the damage has been done...
2006-11-30 21:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by River Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah she still loves you. You know she will probably always love you, but she doesn't trust you anymore. You have to prove yourself to her. She's still really hurt. It's not going to change overnight or maybe not even in a year. If you love someone and the trust has been broken then you have to work for it.
Good Luck and don't be so mean to her. Don't you think you've hurt her enough?
COUNSELING is GREAT my husband and I did it about 2 years into our marriage. I don't think we'd still be married if it wasn't for that. We've been together 8 years now and are happier than ever.
2006-11-30 21:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by ******* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was mean! Although she wanted a divorce because you weren't getting along and also because you almost cheated her, she still loves you. She says the marriage is over and wants to remain friends with you means that she realizes the two of you are probably better off that way. And when you told her you did not love her anymore broke her heart. I hope you apologized to her and told her why you did that. Good luck and I hope she speaks to you again!
2006-11-30 21:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That was a little immature. She never told you that she didn't love you anymore, she would just rather love you from afar. At least she still wants to remain in your life by being friends. Just because she doesn't want to discuss the feelings for you aspect didn't give you the right to intentionally hurt her, she doesn't want to discuss because she is trying to get over you. I understand you are hurting as well and a part of you wanted her to feel that same pain but at the same time you are trying to win her back in your life as your wife, that was bad move.
2006-11-30 21:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason why she probably wants a divorce is because she was hurt so much when you cheated. Only someone who loved you would have cared. To hear this comment probably added insult to injury I guess. Some women will break up with a man who they still love if it is because they cant trust him anymore.
If she didn't want to talk to you and you wanted to get her attention a better approach would be to send her masses or roses and a note to say sorry. The approach you took is hurtful to her.
2006-11-30 21:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
she wants u to be sorry for hurting her, and respond as if u knew u had made a mistake. she cried because she really loves u, but is having a hard time expressing it, as she is afraid u will hurt her again. the most honest reaction is she cried. ask her to go to therapy with u so she can communicate her hurts, and maybe when she finally gets what has hurt her out, there will be a happy ending with your marriage, she may be depressed, and she needs your emotional support more than ever.
2006-11-30 21:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You big meanie. Obviously she still loves you and you broke her heart when you said that to her. She probably felt like you never did love her then and the marriage was a waste of time to you. You need to apologize and tell her you didnt mean that,,,maybe yall need some more time apart so you both can figure out if the marriage should be saved. But that wasnt a very nice thing to say to your wife.
2006-11-30 21:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She obviously loves you and wants to be back in your arms again, but this broke her. My goodness I would tell her you do love her, still, more now than ever before. and that you want to work on anything that goes wrong. That you will do your best to keep her being the happiest woman in the world. Do like my husband does, he calls me through the day to tell me what a blessing I am to his life, and how he doesn't know what he'd do without me in it, and how wonderful I am, and how much he loves me and do this every day. Tell her how wonderful you think she is, how beautiful she is, how your life would be meaningless without her. She will love it. I do.
2006-11-30 22:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by mason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she still loves you but she didnt want to tell you because you have done hurt her and she is scared of being hurt by you again. but if you have been trying to get her back and then you told her you dont love her that wouldnt make any sense and she is probably very confused and hurt. i think you shold tell her that you were just being stupid and your sorry. and maybe she will understand.
2006-11-30 21:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by better_than_me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋