i have problems sleeping every since my hubby died last oct 05...?

Question

NEED SOME ADVISE ON THINGS TO TRY, THAT MAY HELP WITH SLEEPING........................

Answer 1

I had many problems, what helped me is that I invited Jesus into my heart, He has changed me from the inside out, he helped heal my broken heart, he has made things which I thought were impossible happen in my life....He is love.....may God help you to relax and sleep.....in Jesus name....amen

Answer 2

I'm sure this is probably quite a normal response because you have been through so much. I would recommend praying when you are trying to sleep - I find that Jesus helps me when I ask Him. Also taking a bath with lavender before bed may be relaxing or having very soft classical type music playing. Grief is a long process and takes time. This is something you will get through but not over. Be easy on yourself and take it one day at a time. There also may be some type of calmative herb you could try if you visit a naturopath or health food store. Herbal tea such as camomile is relaxing and good for bedtime as well.

God bless you. I hope you get some sleep.

Answer 3

I know you've heard it and it sounds corny, but it's true: Time heals things. (but not totally)

My wife died (we had been married 17 years) and I learned that grieving is different for everybody. I went to a grief workshop at the local hospice and that helped me a lot. Just knowing that other people have similar thoughts and feelings like yours can help a lot.

I had the hardest time adjusting to being in our house alone. I tried to fill up all my time with going to other people's houses and staying away from home. That didn't help much, because when I went home, it was always there.

Over time, things DO get easier. It's hard, but eventually it comes, a little at a time.

Answer 4

it is hard to loose a loved one, whether it's to death or divorce, knowing we will never see them again on earth. but u will be seeing him again one day when u are called home. have u considered counciling, maybe church berevement groups, with other widow's like yourself. u need to get out some and do some things, meet some new friends, do u have a pet? pet's can give one alot of love, and give us a reason to get up in the morning. the best way to get over grief is to be of help to someone else who is suffering, volunteer at a nursing home, where u would be helping someone, and giving of yourself to someone who is lonely. thats the best way to get your mind off of u and your problems, and grief. look on the bright side, that u had a wonderful man and a good marriage, some women never get that much in life.focus on the happy times with your hubby, focus on other hurting people, and get a pet, there are thousands of unwanted dogs and cats, who without being adopted will have to be euthanized, u could save a life, and find it could make u happy also.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear that you lost a loved one. Is it the physical part of not having someone in bed with you to help you sleep at night or is it the constant mental part of losing him and your up all night thinking about him? If it's the physical emptiness in your bed, you probably want to get a body pillow and hug that to sleep. If you can't sleep because he's always on your mind, then you can try reading a book or watching tv. That might help you fall asleep. Good luck and I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for your loss! that's a shame....;-(
As far as the sleep part...have you tried any counseling so you can get some of the grief out? Or maybe for the time being you should try sleeping pills. some good sleep would probably help you deal with everything better (which I'm sure you know)
Good luck and again i'm so sorry for your loss!

Answer 7

Its not easy not at all, I lost my hubby 9 years ago and I still rock myself to sleep. Crazy as it may seem, you just never get over that empty feeling. I am so so sorry for your loss, and wish you well, you have a minute by minute road ahead of you. Good luck.

Answer 8

If you have a family physician, talk to him/her. Maybe they can give you something (temporarily) to help you sleep. Its not really any wonder that you're having a hard time, I'm sure you've been thru alot. I hope you get this handled and can sleep much better. Take care.

Answer 9

I would suggest moving the position of the bed (rearranging the room) and changing the side you sleep on. Also a firm bed time with routine can help your internal clock reset.

Answer 10

You need some grief therapy. Chances are, you are blocking out the pain during the day and then it hits you at night. God bless you. I pray you find peace.