I am pregnant at 19 with my b/f's kid. We have been together for four years. He agreed to stay by me. I am really scared and worried. He's calm and reassuring. Is he not worried?? Why?? Is it wrong to be worried?? WHY ISN'T HE WORRIED????????
2006-11-30 13:23:18 · 17 answers · asked by Nicoletta 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Why doesn't he just say he's worried?? He knows what I'm going thru. He's there each morning with me. Why can't he just say how he feels??
2006-11-30 13:29:49 · update #1
Sweet heart, by being quiet is probably his way of dealing with the issue. Maybe he is as scared as hell but doesn't want to show it to worry you more. You need to speak to him one on one and ask how he is feeling about this. Good Luck honey.
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2006-11-30 13:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Princess ♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows that you are going to be the greatest mom ever. he knows that you two will figure it out, you have been together now for 4 years after all you must have been through some stuff together. He probably See's you worrying and knows that you are doing enough for both of you. Stop stressing my friend. It's a happy time. Take the time to picture this beautiful being inside your little belly. Get good prenatal care so you know that all is good in that area. When talking with you bF be specific. saying "I;m worried" is not clear enough for men. You gotta say. I'm worried about money...I fear that we will not be able to afford a crib" What ever it is. Be as specific as possible. Ask him to brain storm with you to find some solutions. don't worry about a college fund for the baby yet. Get through this one day at a time. :-) congratulations luv.
2006-11-30 21:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by oosak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps at this stage he still is in a so-called "numb" state whereby he knows it's coming but have not really come to terms with it. Maybe he does not know the depth of it and the responsibilities that come with it. Children are cute to play with, but it does not mean they are a bed of roses to take care of... I suggest you guys both join some prenatal courses to better prepare yourselves to prevent being overwhelmed. Stay positive, think of names for the baby and enrich yourselves with as much knowledge as possible. Although what you learnt might not be applicable esp when you panick later on, it's good to be mentally prepared.. :)
The classes are pretty fun n intersting. You'll learn how to put on clean diapers, bathe the baby (although they use a dummy), about benefits of breastfeeling etc.... Think of ways to save costs and have enough money to tide you over esp the first year. Work out the expenses vs income, and get whatever help you need from family and friends.
Congrats to you for being a mum-to-be!!!
2006-11-30 21:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Kee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY ISN'T HE WORRIED? becoz as you said, He's calm and reassuring! maybe he is cool and confident and ready to be a father. ask him to find a job if he does'n't have one and stabilise himself before the arrival of the baby so that he'll have money atleast for buying diapers. all i can say, its hard work for him along the way. ask him to be prepared and strong. and you worry less so that your baby will be healthy and happy.
2006-11-30 21:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by GAWD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably IS worried, he just doesn't show it. Fathers don't really get excited about a pregnancy until almost delivery time. When he sees that tiny little baby, he will be plenty worried!
2006-11-30 21:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're scared because you're 19 and pregnant!!!!!
he probably isn't scared right now because he hasn't seen the baby yet. trust me, he'll freak out. you will always be connected with him through the baby, let's just hope your relationship lasts. having a baby is very stressful on a relationship, especially an unmarried couple.
2006-11-30 21:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, be happy and feel happy that he is by your side, don't worry about it. That stresses the baby and you will have a baby that crys all night. Be happy and giddy, and enjoy the time you have with this being growing inside of you.
2006-11-30 21:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by mason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared. He probably knows how scared you are, so why would he want to freak you out when your carrying his child. He feels like he is helping you by playing it cool, you both will get used to it. It's just new and running through your head 24/7.
2006-11-30 21:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by smariezl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is quite natural for you to be worried, you are the one pregnant with the concerns of how to take care of this baby. your boyfriend isn't worried because he knows that he will be there. you're worried because its already the mother instinct in you to want to care for this baby. you'll do just fine. i would worry more for you if you had no concerns.
2006-11-30 21:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by lolly125107 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very different from women and they deal with these situations differently than we do.Plus, it is not his body that is caring the baby so it probably isn't a realization to him yet. My husband didn't realize we were having a baby until I HAD the baby. Just try to relax and best wishes to you.
2006-11-30 21:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋