I have this acquaintance. I let her stay with me for a bit, and then her true colors came out. She said she'd only stay for a month, and now it's going on three, she ushered along my break-up, then she got mad that I was spending too much time at my place(I was at "his" before the break-up), and not going anywhere or doing anything. She bossed me around for a bit; and told me she'd do whatever she could to help me in my sorrow(once I broke up with my ex; all that changeed from her side). EVERYONE I've spoken to about her doesn't like her and thinks I should give her to boot out of my life. I don't like her much as a friend anymore either, serves me right to think she was one; but as an acquaintance who says hi once in a while, she's cool. But I can't help thinking that if EVERYONE in my life(some are polar opposites), agree she should be OUT of my life premanantly; then should I go against my judgement(I just want friends), and let her drift away? I'd like ur honest opinions please.
2006-11-30 12:54:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Woah, talk about a bad seed. Why are you letting yourself be subjected to this kind of treatment? Stand up for yourself and kick this wench out of your life before she takes it over compleltey.
2006-11-30 13:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't seem to respect you much. In my opinion, she isn't what I would call "friend-material."
But maybe instead of saying "get out" try a nicer approach so you won't ruin your acquaintanceship. Perhaps explain your feelings (and also the living situation) to her first. If she seems earnest and sincere when answering you she might not be such a horrible person. But, if your sentences are any indication, she won't care much.
A thought to consider, although negative, maybe she was only using you as a free shelter provider.
PS, she was staying at your place and she was bossing you around?
2006-11-30 21:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Natsumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel married to her? If she doesnt work, why should she eat your food and sleep under your roof?
Adults need house rules. Only children go rent free. When my brother lived with me he paid half the rent, or did ALL of the housework, and I made a 40hr per week housework chore-chart to enforce it. I work, and if I have to work everyone works.
If you dont have that rule with family, you end up having to kick them out. Same thing holds with friends.
2006-11-30 20:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah u need to let her go. what's the point of keeping somebody like that around. friends come and go
2006-11-30 21:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with others can be extremely difficult as you get older.....she is staying with you and getting mad because you are home too much?????....Girl......at least get her out of your house....be freinds if you want, but good gracious.....Sounds like you are way too passive......She wont get any better......
2006-11-30 21:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her out of your place as quickly as possible because she is well on her way to taking it over. once you get her out of your place then you can worry about how to deal with the other stuff
2006-11-30 21:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by mark_grvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her out!
2006-11-30 21:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go.
2006-11-30 20:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋