A lot of times, i found out that my best friend go around passing words that i've told her. It's not top secret and i did not forbid her from doing so. But i just don't like her to transfer whatever i've said to another person and quote on me because everytime when i heard what she had said it is something different. I no longer trust her and i've told her not to anyhow tell anybody anything. I am feeling guilty. Am i wrong?
2006-11-30 12:29:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, you are not wrong for feeling the way that you do. You have two options here.....First, you can try to talk to her again and tell her that you would rather her not tell other people things that you have told her, even if they aren't things to be kept confidential. OR you could just not tell her things that you wouldn't want other people to know. Find yourself a new confidante, someone that you can trust, and share with that person things that you would rather not have everyone else know.
2006-11-30 12:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong for not trusting her. If she has a past of blabbing, then it is probably best not to share things with her. You can easily still be friends, justr watch what you say to her, but dont feel bad for not trusting her. You would feel worse if you trusted her with a deep secret and a rumor of somesort was spread everywhere. Prevent that from happening before it does.
2006-11-30 20:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by sassy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't she is one thats wrong. she shouldnt be telling ppl ya all conversation and especially if she keep changing what you say. You need to tell her how you truly feel and dont tell her your personal secret even though she your best friend there are some things you keep to yourself, cause it seems that she cant keep a secret.
2006-11-30 20:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to be clear with her about what you want her to keep to herself and what you don't care gets spread around. That being said....if she continues to pass along your "don't pass along" stuff....then she must be taken off the list of "trustworthy".
2006-11-30 20:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to not tell people things in future, if she does it again then don't tell her anything more. Trust should be earned, and she should respect you enough to keep what you tell her, to herself.
2006-11-30 20:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by tahanni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong! your suppose to be able to tell your best friend almost anything without having to worry about it going anywhere. that's why their called best friends.
2006-11-30 20:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by desperate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to talk to her and tell her how you feel about this( in a calm way )because that why you choose her to be your bf she should know that what she might be doing is not right
2006-11-30 20:34:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong but if she doesn't this then how can she still be your best friend
2006-11-30 20:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mel Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, just tell her stuff about herself and see if she spreads that.
2006-11-30 20:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's got loose lips then no you are not wrong, she is
2006-11-30 20:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋