Considering divorce statistics in America, should "until death do you part" be omitted from wedding vows?

Question

Should that phrase be replaced with: "as long as it's convenient"?

Answer 1

No, it should not be removed. When you get married it's supposed to be until death, we have just made divorce to easy. And depending on your religion even divorce doesn't end the marriage in the Church's eyes.

Answer 2

No it should not be taken out of the vows at all. People need to READ the vows and live by them. People get married I hope because they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. Most of the divorces that I have known about is due to cheating. Mine ended in a divorce after 17 years, cause he cheated on me. If people would stay with the one they got married to instead of thinking they need to cheat, there would be a lot less divorces here. I hate a cheater with a passion.

Answer 3

I find this question really interesting and in a way, pretty valid. There has been some sort of demoralization in this country now that people are a lot more open about their sexuality, which is good and bad... I think the best thing to do is write your own vows, but why would someone who is going to get married do it if they didn't think it would last forever? other than the obvious money and security brewhaha...

Answer 4

ABSOLUTLY NOT!!! It's really sad that people when they are married when conflict happens in their marriage, they would rather run than work at resolving it. Marriage isn't easy, and people these days expect things to be handed to them, and want things to be easy. Well making a marriage work is alot of hard work and dedication. And what's really sad is that people don't take their wedding vows seriously. Things get tough and they are not going how they want, and they run, and look for someone else they thing will give them what they want. The problem is they want things their way, and they don't think about their partner, or their partner's feelings and needs. They listen to what society preaches that it's all about me, me, me. People, if your going to get marriage, get pre-marriage counceling, I personally feel that it should be a must, because it can help train a young enganged couple how to resolve conflicts when they come up, instead of running to a lawyer and filing for divorce.

Answer 5

It's still in there from when Protestants were Catholics and Henry VIII of England established the Protestant Church because he wanted a divorce, which the Catholic Church wouldn't allow. Obviously someone decided to leave the death part even though divorce was available as an option to death.

Answer 6

Well, hell! Lets get rid of "to love and to cherish" too. Most couples cheat so let's throw that out!
How about in sickness and in health? When a guy gets really ill, all I see on this site is "should I leave him since he's so irresponsible"?
Don't even get me started with "for richer or poorer" What woman stays with an out of work bum?
To have and to hold? You know how long the average marriage lasts? Off with it's head!
Yep, lets kick them all out!
OR we could see these as the cherished goals we all hope to achieve. We could reach further down to attain the blessed marriage that only those who stay together forever have. Hmmmm, a marriage of convenience or a marriage of respect, honesty, and compassion? Yours doesn't sound so hot anymore!

Answer 7

yeah something like that

maybe state the prenups in the vows first , so its clear

then the expectations of each person,

and what happens if he doesn't work or drinks too much

and what happens if they don't get any for a week.

spell it out. takes away some of the romance but hey, realistic

maybe renew every ten years, invite he lawyers from both sides to witness and record the vows, however far out on a limb they want to go. Easier than in court 5 years later I think. And hammer it out while everyone is in love instead of fighting.

Then if the couple still love each other after the legalities are dealt with, then they are married.

Answer 8

I have my own opinion about that because where in the bible does it say that? I think til death means a spirtual death. When your spirit feels like its slowly dying especially if you have Jesus in your heart and the joy is leaving and only one person wants to make the effort to liven up their relationship but the other is too occupied with SELF and satisfing their wants, and I don't mean sex either, then it can get dead and then its time to move on before your physical death sets in to where you don't care if you live or die, Then you know its time to move on to be a survivor. Thats what I believe. Sorry if I stepped on anyones toes but if the shoe fits then wear it....
Oh yeah to those that talk about CHEATING, I fill sorry for those whose spouse ran around on them with several women or men but for those that fell in LOVE with someone else while they were married, you've got to ask yourself, what was it that I could have contributed to my marriage that made my spouse look for LOVE ? Something HAD to have been missing so DON'T cast stones at those who found geniune happiness because they were not happy with the one they THOUGHT they had married. Amazing how people CHANGE after they snag a spouse. Real passion has to exist and I'm NOT talking about SEX. I'm talking about having that closeness and NOT just convience.

Answer 9

see the problem is people getting married for the wrong reasons and jumping into stuff to soon and kids getting married so i think no it should stay in the vows because some people take getting married serious not as something cool to do at the time they get confused between love and lust love is till death do us part because if you love them and are 100% sure that's the person then you can get thru anything together

Answer 10

I put together the wedding vows that my daughter used in her ceremony. I most definitely left out that phrase. In this world there is no telling what might happen to change our lives. I would not put that burden on any person.
I also wouldn't be as flippant to say as long as it is convenient. People change, sometimes you think you know them so well only to have that not be true. The death of love is hard enough to deal with with out filling a person with guilt that they broke a sacred vow.

Answer 11

no that line should stay cuz it reminds a person of the life sentence he has gotten himself into. i personally believe that there should be a return policy on a marriage, meaning that if after a man and woman says i do and the woman pulls the age old since we are married all the great sex i gave u in the beginning i no longer have to do and u will be lucky to get it once a week routine, then the man can walk away with no financial burden and she has to pay him for pain and suffering