how do you know when someone is cheating on you, what are the signs if they are any?

Answer 1

Sure, there are signs, but only if you're willing to see them. Shall I make a list?

1) Loses interest in sex.
2) Doesn't want to be home as much.
3) Unexplained time away from home, or excuses that don't hold water.
4) Hang up calls to your home.
5) Odd numbers on your partner's cell.
6) Your partner starts taking greater interest in his or her appearance.
7) All of a sudden has the urge to try new sexual things.
8) Takes up new interests or hobbies.
9) Unexplained use of his or her money.
10) Doesn't want you to go to what should be public affairs.
11) Doesn't give you as much attention.
12) Gives gifts or is sweeter than normal for feelings of guilt.
13) Starts acting mean to you, saying that you nag too much, are lazy, or some other excuse that would justify an affair.
14) Comes home and goes directly to the shower.
15) Isn't hungry when he or she gets home, indicating that lunch or dinner came from elsewhere.

There are tons of signs, but these are the most common. If there are more than four of them, on a regular basis, I would hire a PI.

Answer 2

You'll know. A long time ago a girlfriend told me that if I ever cheated on her, she would leave me. I laughed and told her she would never know because I would never tell her. (No, I never did cheat on her!) But surprisingly since then, I have been cheated on and guess what, it is just a feeling you get, and when it is there, you will know it. There are also many other signs like they use to come home from work at 5 but lately, they do not come home until 8 because they are very busy at work. Or they seem to be going out with their friends a lot more lately. They do not leave their cell phone laying in the open like they use to because they are afraid you might check the last dialed numbers or they may receive a call from that other person. They are not interested in sex like they use to be. They sleep on the couch more often. They never compliment you no more. They do not go out of their way for you. They snap at you when you try having an innocent conversation. They are dressing sexier and wearing thongs instead of big nasty white underwear. They act more secretive and the list goes on and on, but trust me, you will know. And if you have that feeling, do some home work and I am sure your instincts will be right. But if you are not sure, don't be over bearing because maybe that partner is just going through some bad personal times, and if you are too pushy, you may just push that person right out of your life for no reason. Good luck and I hope you are wrong.

Answer 3

if someone is cheating on you they're distant, they're going through the motions in a relationship. if you're in a rut though that'll be harder to detect because you're probably going through the motions too, though you may not be cheating yourself. if someone is secretive, or can't look at you straight in the eye they're cheating. if they never initiate, you know, or aren't spending any time with you afterwards they're probably cheating. if they're quiet and managing time between talking to you and talking to someone else they're cheating.

once you've established that you need to know if it's an emotional cheater or a regular cheater you're dealing with. emotional aren't that enthusiastic about spending time with the other person, because they don't want to take it there physically, but there is a longing for the little time they do see them. they may be short and brief with you, not really listening to what you're saying or having a hard time concentrating. plus they're distant in the bedroom. the physical cheater may be shady when they're caught up with that person but can jump back into the swing of things when they aren't, or haven't, cheated in that way. they'll have like 3 hour trips to the bank, or dissapear in the middle of the day (if they're smart), stuff like that.

an emotional cheater would rather text and email and stuff. a regular cheater you should perhaps check his phone messages, see if any money is missing from his wallet, check for strange spending patterns. problem with the emotional infidelity is that it can go on forever, and the cheater is sort of helpless to do anything about it; it can turn into somewhat of a learned helplessness and is a bit depressing. if that's what you have on your hands then you two need to talk; a regular cheater, get your shots and get checked out for a clean bill of health, then talk, or throw his stuff out on the curb your choice!

Answer 4

This is a tough question. My mother's ex husband cheated with two other women, and there were no signs. He worked 2 jobs, and was always busy, but that's when he was able to cheat... at work. Go with your intuition. Hire a PI, and find out.

Answer 5

Usually, if you think someone is cheating on you, they are.
Signs: doesn't call as much, doesn't show up when supposed to, evasive when questioned about where he has been, a new interest in how he looks, new clothes, cologne, new hair style, spending more and more time with his "friends", does not return your calls, the list goes on and on - you can usually pick up "vibes" .

Answer 6

Ask him outright and if things are good it will open up a conversation and you can talk about why you feel that way, what has changed with you that makes you even see that happening. If he is cheating, he may get super pissed when you ask him. Keep your eyes on him when he talks. You can tell when someone is lying to you. I wish you luck.

Answer 7

Look for their normal trends to change. That is always a dead give away. Like going to the store more often, using the phone more, working later than usual...you know, normal trends.

Answer 8

you can learn a lot from his cell phone, does he delete his calls right away, or leave it in the car, are there unexplained numbers dialed, this is how i found out my wife was cheating, also making up excuses to be home late from work

Answer 9

some time there are sign like he doesnt want to be around you or if he call you up and tell you he ove at a friend house and he wont be home intil later and have done this a lot in the pass.

Answer 10

If they buy new underwear, new clothes in a style that they don't usually buy. New aftershave. All of a sudden working over but, no extra money on their check and so on. And there is your gut feeling, that is never wrong.