2006-11-30 11:49:11 · 13 answers · asked by pebbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should tell your husband. Maybe he'll be cool with it, maybe he won't. But if you're feeling things for ANYONE other than your husband, he should be respected enough to be told. Wouldn't you want him to respect you and your feelings?
Equal rights come with equal responsibilities.
2006-11-30 11:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by FRANKFUSS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in an awkward situation. We can't control how we feel, that's I guess the point of feelings.
I would suggest you talk to your husband about how you feel, if you trust him and love him.
The next important step is finding out how your female friend feels. If she's totally straight - you've got a crush that probably won't be fulfilled.
In my experience, some weird things can happen in this situation. I've ended up in situations where the ladies decided to engage in romantic relations, and then dragged me into it... very weird, but you do what the women want, you know?
The big thing is to be honest with your husband, and if its prudent, with your female friend.
The worst that can happen is some form of rejection from your friend - but I would take care there... if you don't know her orientation you need to be very careful...
I wish you the best - you're in a very difficult situation, feelings can't be denied, they need resolution.
-dh
2006-11-30 11:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the marriage,be urself,and let ur poor husband free to find someone who is truly into him.my hubby wasted like,a decade with some chick who turned out to be gay.she was mean to him,not romantic with him,would never say why.finally,years llater,she told him.she's now happy in a relationship with a woman and i'm happy to be married to my gr8 husband.we all knew each other from work.my husband and i werent romantically interested untill after their divorce,i thought of him as a co-worker and friend.i am happy now,but sometimes wish she had decided to express herself earlier,if that had been the case,maybe my husband and i would have been married many years before-but im gr8ful we're together @ all.honestly.im not trying to sound mean,but if u seriously,seriously think ur gay,it would be better for both of u to find happiness seperately.
2006-11-30 11:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut off contact with the woman. You are married.
Now if you're gay, and living a life of lies, then you have more on your hands than I thought and you need to deal with yourself IN TRUTH and make some difficult decisions in your life.
But if this is just a "girls gone wild" feeling, let it go, it's not worth it.
2006-11-30 11:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything unless you get divorced first. You know you cant act on your feelings no matter what....you are a married woman.
2006-11-30 11:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u bi? if ur married, u need to put these feelings aside and focus on ur husband. but if it becomes stronger and she feels the same way, talk with her and work it out good luck
2006-11-30 11:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you imagine that there are "women human beings" as adversarial to at least one female? also, why do you're saying that she thinks he's unmarried? in case you got here upon evidence of that contained in the textual content messages, you probably did not element out it. Your husband having lady associates is not any large deal in itself; he might want to easily opt for someone to seek for suggestion from with and to get suggestion from, a lot as you're doing the following on Y!A. even if, if he's telling her that he's unmarried, that appears to be like extra of a topic, as he won't be able to ok be getting valid suggestion in accordance with a lie about his difficulty. If he's telling her he's unmarried, he might want to instead be searching to flirt including her or worse. It sounds like you want extra counsel before you may make an counseled determination about how indignant/dissatisfied you need to be or what to do about it. so that you'll both keep going round in the back of his decrease back and snooping with the help of his telephone - that is purely as a lot a breach of have self belief as something you understand he's performed so a procedures - or you may confront him about it immediately and ask who she is and what their courting is. If she's only a pal, perhaps he felt that he couldnt inform you about her because he theory you'd be unreasonable about the potential of him having lady associates who weren't your associates first. in case you've given him a reason to sense that way, then disgrace on you. in the different case, disgrace on him. And if he's telling her that he's unmarried, he actual has some explaining to do, yet he nonetheless benefits the prospect to describe before you leap to conclusions.
2016-11-28 02:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the person ur married to tell him/her about them maybe tell ur "friend" that u feel drawn to her and ask if she could stay awy for a while so u dint see her
2006-11-30 11:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by edgey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm u should clear ur mind and realize wut u married wuz a man and u really want a man not a woman ur just getting disguisting mixed signals keep ur head up and pray these feelings arent normal u dont really want a woman
2006-11-30 11:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by dismaha2 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It will pass. Don't act on those feeling.
2006-11-30 11:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋