why when I get angry I can't calm down easily?

Question

it takes time, especially when I feel my partner gets me angry by neglecting me, and he doesn't feel sorry about it or admit it

Answer 1

it's natural, tell him how its bothering you, it will take away some of the anger adnd stress. And go out for a run thats usually good. take up an agressive sport, boxing, martial arts.

Answer 2

Its from how angry you get and then you just get so upset you cant calm down fast enough. It happens to a lot of people there really isn't anything you can do about it just try not to get so angry and it might help. And if you get angry a lot then you can calm down easily usually but when your not use to it you just cant calm down.Hope it helps! I wish you the best of luck!!!!!

Answer 3

Without knowing more about the situation, I can't judge if you have unrealistic expectations or if your partner really is neglecting you. If you find yourself getting angry a lot, possibly it isn't the right relationship for you.

Answer 4

It's because u have so much anger in yourself tat u don't have control of urself 2 calm yourself down. Trust me.....I know how u feel. When someone makes me mad, I just feel like punching them in the face. I try to calm down but with so much anger in me I have no control of my anger.

Answer 5

Because you waited so much before you expressed your dissatisfaction with the situation, anger becoming the accumulated bad feelings you had each time he said/did something.

Next time, address the problem earlier and that should do it.

Answer 6

Stress? Anxiety disorder? Talk with you Doctor today! Being angry and all stressed out can lead to other health issues. Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

you get angry and you cant calm down easy because you have not identified strategies to deal with your mood and you are mismanaging your end of your relashionship

sort things out on your end learn to deal with your moods and him then launch an attack from the moral high ground

Answer 8

Change "I can't" to "I'm not willing to" first.

Then, quit holding your partner responsible for your own feelings.

Nobody gets you angry, you choose to be angry.

Anger is merely a combination of fear, frustraion, and anxiety, and it is projected outward.

You can't "convince" someone to feel anything. You will only become annoying. Especially when they refuse th be responsible for your feelings. That's your responsibility anyway. No one else wants that job.

Remember, you perceive things differently than your partner. Sometimes, you perceive things other than they were intended to be perceived.

Seek to understand FIRST, then you will be unerstood. Go out of your way to show EMPATHY, and walk in your partner's shoes for a few minutes.

If your partner is neglecting you, do you think you can inspire or motivate them with complains, critism, and anger? Do you think he likes to be regulated or micromanaged? You will only become annoying. you will inspire him to WITHDRAW. He will want you to go away....

You CAN influence the behavior of others, simply by changing your own. They will have to react to you differently. You can motivate people by appreciating them, inspiring them, and by showing unconditional positive regard for them. Cater to what motivates men (ego needs). Guys want to be admired, respected, to feel powerful and attractive, and sought after. They like a challenge, not someone whom they can control. Remember this, and you will be a man-magnet.

Stop with the neediness, this whole "You're responsible for my happiness and you owe me my perfect relationship". You are setting yourself up for failure.

Resolve to start appreciating the good things about him, treating him like you respect him and his individuality, that you are proud to be with him, honored that he chose you to be with, notice the effort he makes to take care of things, and tell him when you feel appreciated yourself, when you feel special to him, when you feel loved.

And if you do miss his attention and affection in the future, tell him you miss it when he takes you somewhere, or when he watches something with you, etc. Don't demand his attention, inspire him and motivate him to WANT to give it to you.

Imagine what it would be like to be the guy, Imagine what it would feel like to hear his woman say to him, "Honey, love how you take care of me when you make dinner. I feel so lucky you picked me. You're my big, strong studhorse." Or, "Honey, I miss you. WHen you pay attention to me and hang out with me, I feel so special, like the luciest girl in the world. Couldn't you postpone going out with the guys tonight?" If you were a guy, wouldn't you rather hear that?
Walk in his shoes.....

Answer 9

Red hair or too much caffeine, or both!