2006-11-30 11:19:55 · 32 answers · asked by jrgimp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She loves you but not willing to give you 100% of her heart and soul. She obviously cares but is in doubt of a future with you. She seems to be questioning her own motives for being in a relationship with you. Maybe shes not totally satisfied with the relationship or feel solid enough in it. Seems to me she is willing to be friends but from a distance. Do not give her an alternative, that's instant death!Give her understanding and your friendship but your heart would be more appreciated elsewhere..Good luck!
2006-11-30 11:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her what she means by it? Her definition could be different from others on here. To me it means that she loves you, but not in the way that excites her, turns her on sexually, makes her all tingly, takes her breath away, ect...... She is probably comfortable with you like a brother or best friend that she loves. This is often very common after many years of marriage. But without asking her directly you will never know for sure.
2006-11-30 11:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sally B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just told that to my husband that so it depends if she is willing find the love again or not. Basically she loves you cause you are a part of her but she feels nothing attracted to you as in loving you. It depends I am trying to get the love back that I had for my husband cause we have 3 kids. He treated me really bad though and now he is suffering. At least she is being honest with you trust me it is a hard thing to tell your hubby...
2006-11-30 11:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you haven't turned her out in so long that she sees you more like a brother than a mate. She would love her brother but not be IN love with him. It's time to take drastic measures and rekindle the friendship and love you once shared unless she is involved emotionally with someone she works with, met on the net etc...
This can be fixed if you are both willing.
2006-11-30 12:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sucks... that is what it means. She is telling you that she loves you like a best friend. Not that deep passionate lust kind of love you have for a partner. I know... I was told the same thing. I took many classes on human behavior and how to read people so... I asked the question... where do we go from here? I am with someone i love dearly and loves me now and i have a wonderful friendship with my ex. I asked that question.. where do we go from here. Life is to short not to have someone that is truly in love with you. So.. ask her that question. best of luck
2006-11-30 11:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically just to get to the point she loves you but not the way that you want her to. She probably feels like she made a mistake in getting married (to soon maybe) your best bet is to just talk to her and ask her how do you love hunny and hopefully she'll tell you other wise you guys need to have space not saying to break up but just relax and test your love (don't cheat)...
2006-11-30 11:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Charissa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..Im sorry..
she loves you like an old friend, a family member..not in love with you like lovers should be..
It means she is ready to look for someone to lust and have fun with..
Im sorry, harshbut straight to the point..
At this point, its hard to turn the relationship around, but it has been successfully done before
2006-11-30 11:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, "loving" someone without being "in love" with them is somehow a bad thing. I say, if you truly "love" someone, you don't need to be "in love" (i.e., infatuated) with them for it to be enjoyable. But I think what she's telling you is that the infatuation is gone, but the deeper feeling of love and companionship has never developed.
2006-11-30 11:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how your wife feels i have been with my boyfriend for 10 years we went to school together i love him for the fact that we have 3 beautiful girls together but not I'm not in love with him as much as i would like to be i think its because we have changed or it because we have been together for so long i would love to feel what i felt when i first meet him i wanted to feel needed not someone who want dinner cooked or to look after his kids
make her feel wanted, needed and special i know looking after 3 kids all day and doing house work that what i want hope this helps
2006-11-30 11:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means exactly what it says. If you have never been "in love" you may not understand. It also means you need marriage help. Like counseling. Or your lines of communication have broke down so much that she doesn't feel appreciated anymore. And she is falling out of love with you. It may even mean goodbye.
2006-11-30 11:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋