they are now split up and have been for over a month. He was thinking about coming back to me. She told him she never wants to date him again. But, they are still friends and she causes problems everytime he talks to me. He and I would be together and she would text message him and start a fight. Because she is jealous. So, he quit talking to me because he hopes they will get back together.
He says we cant be friends right now but maybe in the future. Ok, I know this is going to sound stupid but I want to be friends with him. And I dont know how to make him see that she is the one causing the trouble not me. He says he still cares about me and always will but right now he is going through changes and wants to stay away from me because it causes to much heartache? Does this mean that he still wants to be with me but wants to explore before he comes back? I just want to be friends and stay in contact with him. Is there anyway I can show him that its her thats causing the problems?
2006-11-30 11:16:35 · 10 answers · asked by flower c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl, I know what it feels like to be in love with a guy that's supposivley "unsure" of what he wants. People may tell you to leave him, to move on with your life...etc....well.....if it was that easy then you wouldn't be asking the question. Now, in my opinion, I feel like he still cares about you, because you 2 were together for a very long time. And, if he didn't care about you, he wouldn't be answering the phone or calling you. Trust me. I mean..would u answer the phone for a guy or call him if you knew he really liked you but u couldn't stand him? I think he just wants to be able to do whatever the hell he wants right now with no strings. And maybe he knows that you are weak about him therefore he can do whatever he wants to do with this situation. That's why you just act like it doesn't bother you. Then the tables will turn..I guarantee. If you stop stressing about it to him, crying, etc.... then he will start to see that. But it is true what some of the readers are saying...... it was wrong for what he did..and your best friend?? Damn girl ..how could they do that to you?? I dunno. U can write down my messenger name..and IM me if you wanna talk about it more.............because I have so much to say that it's so hard to explain. Just keep your head up... Maybe I'll holla at cha. PEACE
2006-11-30 11:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm Being Totally Honest Now, I Forgot That 13 Years Ago Today Was The Day Of The Death Of Eazy-E But, I Had A Dream Last Night That Ice Cube & Dr. Dre Died, I Don't Know How, Coz I Woke Up =/ Scary =O
2016-05-23 06:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were with him for 7 yrs. That's a long time. It's hard to let go. You were betrayed by him and your best friend. You need to grieve the loss - it OK to feel sad and angry - it's part of letting go. I think if you put some space between you and him (them) you'll think about it differently. Another aspect of what may be going on is that it's a challenge issue for you. You need to put some space between you and both of them to see the picture clearly. Take a vacation, start a new hobby, take an art class, volunteer at a children's hospital. Purposely set about exposing yourself to a different perspective. You'll see how different things will look.
2006-11-30 11:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be mean sweetie, but are you serious?
Honey, don't you think you deserve more than that? It sounds like you're just rolling over and taking this crap from both him and your former best friend(who is a skank by the way).
Aren't you mad? Where is your pride? He is an a.s.s.!
There are too many men out here who will treat you so much better. I know you had 7 years invested in him , but obviously he has no substance to go and do something as insensitive, cruel, and irresponsible as he did.
Why would you even want him as a friend? I don't let platonic friends treat me like crap, much less someone who I am dating.
You deserve love, don't miss out on it by wasting your time on this loser.
Good luck.
2006-11-30 11:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day he dumped you , he decided he was moving on. You can't be friends with ex's too much baggage.
It is not your place to tell him she is causing the problems...
I think he showed you his true colours when he went after her. Neither one of them deserve your friendship and you should thank your lucky stars they are both out of your life.
They both cheated and used your friendship, they robbed you by using your trust in them to deceive you...
If you are being realistic with yourself you should see this and already bit the bullet and moved on...
This is a dead end street for you...whether he says he cares for you or not is not the point,,,,, the point is he can't be trusted and he has a roving eye......Sure he still wants to be with you... when she isn't available and at his convenience!!!!!! Wake up and smell the coffee..... he will use you again and hurt you again.....
You deserve a better man and better friends in your life...
2006-11-30 11:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this bum. Get him out of your life. He has been unfaithful to you once and he will do it again. Get a clue! He does not want a relationship with you. He has told you that and you don't want to hear it. The other female in his life is not causing problems. He is the problem.
2006-11-30 11:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Julia P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, let it go, let it go. Why would you want some guy who dumps you after wasting 7 years of your life 4 days after you move out of state with him? Are you that desperate? Are you that needy? He don't want you. Suck up the ounce of dignity you have left and get on with your life. Care about yourself.
2006-11-30 11:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is not worth your love at all my dear. 7 years relationship & he just dump it like tat, it just shows that he does not cherish the time u both had together. and with this gal that came along, i tell u, u can jolly well cut both of them off and get yourself a new life n start somewhere new & fresh.
2006-11-30 11:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by yoyo l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious, you need to get hold of yourself. You need to rearrange your self esteem. He was your boyfriend for 7 years, you moved to Mississippi with your best friend, who he left you for and now you want to be friendly with him. Leave them both alone they deserve each other, and you need to move on with your life. This is sad, why would you want to be friends with someone who could do that to you? good luck and God bless****
2006-11-30 11:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the words you just wrote after you turn your brain on. Why would someone want to be with someone like this?
2006-11-30 11:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋