Well I have 2 wonderful children with a not so wonderful man. He is a cheater and controller, but it doesn't stop me from loving him. We broke up 6 months ago and I am still so hurt and upset, I just feel I can't live without him! It's not like I can just walk away because we share 2 children and he is a Wonderful father.
2006-11-30 10:45:20 · 6 answers · asked by RachelSusan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you have to be strong for your children. You don't want them growing up to be in the same kind of relationship that this one was. Set a good example and know that there is someone out there who will treat you the way you are meant to be treated.
2006-11-30 10:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by faith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well his relationship witht he children cant' change just because you guys got separated. You need to move on and when he picks up the kdis to see them on the weekends- refrain from talking to him. If he is a cheater and controlled you alot- you don't need this kind of man no matter how much you love him- you have to love him enought to let him go and forget about it for your sake and your kids sake. When you go home tonight i want you to go to your kinds and hugs them tight tell them that you love them very much and everything is gonna be alright and cry it all out unitl there's no more tears left to cry. If you need a friend you can call me but email me first so i can give you my number jellybean5166@hotmail.com remember- you're not alone. Pray to God so he can help you find a better man. Other than that- there's not much more you can do. You will sadly have to move on!
2006-11-30 18:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah that is hard to deal with because you feel like a piece of you is gone right? you feel like a part of your body that use to be there isn't there anymore. Not used to sleeping alone anymore ? I know how you feel. I want to tell you that its just that a feeling and everything will be OK but i need to address how you feel and what you can do to get on with your life. lol i never said that you would be over him all I'm saying is you need to work on moving on and then in time it won't hurt so much. Also i think when you hear from other mature women that have been through what you've gone through and when you hear their stories the good, sad,bad,happy but most of all the inspirational stories. That's what you need in a time like this to help you. I read something today from a yahoo blog I'd like to share it with you.
I read this from creolegirls blog today. I thought it would help you.
Make your MOMENTS count and not your days!!
Ok, I am feeling better today! I guess there is a certain separation-anxiety that goes with the parting of loved ones. I understand that they have not left my life altogether; they are just where they are supposed to be right now; and I have to ACCEPT THAT!
I've learned that it is important to feel my FEELINGS! If I am happy, be happy! If I am sad, be sad! But, when it comes to negative emotions, I have learned that it is also important to know WHEN to LET IT GO and move on! Yesterday is just that ~~ YESTERDAY! If I live in yesterday, then I can appreciate the beauty of TODAY!
I highly recommend that everyone read the book called 'THE POWER OF NOW' by Eckhart Toole. It is an excellent spiritual book of sorts, that "changed my PERSPECTIVE on Life" and really helped me to STAY IN THE MOMENT; to STAY IN TODAY! Here is one exerpt:
"THE PAST IS A FORMER "NOW"; THE FUTURE IS AN ANTICIPATED "NOW". ALL WE REALLY HAVE IS TODAY! "
If I live in the past and think too much about tomorrow, I miss out on THE PRESENT(which is Today). All that any of us really have is the TWENTY-FOUR HOURS in front of us! "TODAY will never be repeated." It will soon become part of our past. I constantly ask myself, "Am I enjoying today? Am I accepting it for what it is? Am I going to look back and have fond memories of it?" Right now, it is November 28, 2006 and it is 9:50 a.m. In ONE MINUTE, it will be 9:51 a.m. I can never re-do TIME OVER!
I hope and pray that you all have a wonderful week. Enjoy YOUR MOMENTS, not your days
2006-11-30 19:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hope
any girl who is named rachel or anything like that is bad news, you should stay away from her and she should probably avoid herself if she can or at least a name change.
based on meeting like 10 people with that name
2006-11-30 18:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know its hard but u can do it girl ur worth more than u think hold ur head up and u will meet someone else.
2006-11-30 19:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by ann k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try hanging out w/ other men it will eventually hopefully fall you in love w/ some1 else.good luck.
2006-11-30 18:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by question man 911 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋