i got caught writeing and sending letters to other women by wife
boy what a mess i put myself in im so sorry ya the trust is totly gone i hope and pray she can get over it iv put it behind me tryen to go on any help please desprate dude
2006-11-30 10:19:47 · 13 answers · asked by clifford d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you writing and sending letters to other females if you are married. You don't deserve to have a wife caring on like this. Grow up. God bless****
2006-11-30 10:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. sounds like my ex, hint the EX part. He needed "friends" too, so he started to chat online with other woman while I was at work, he even went and got a cell phone so he could chat on the phone with them while I was at work and he was at home doing nothing. When I questioned him, he said they were just "friends" and did I expect to him to not have "friends" My response was no, but if they are just f"friends" then why did they only talk when I was gone? I believe that everyone should have friends it is a healthy part of life, but don't be so secretive about it. I mean why not go and find some guy friends not just females? LET me guess you get along better with females than males.. I will tell you this it is not going to be easy to get her trust back, but tell her what you were doing and that there is nothing to hide if you are not hiding something.
2006-11-30 18:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're trying to get over it, yet you still "need friends but have very gelious wife"??
Oh wait! Now that I re-read that, you're hoping that SHE'LL get over it! And you're putting this failed attempt behind you so you can "go on". Go on with what, pray tell?
Sorry deperate dude, but I'm not buying that you're "so sorry". The only thing you're sorry about, that I can tell, is that you got caught. C'mon now, you can admit it. We all know it.
It sounds like your wife has good reason to be highly suspicious of you, but jealous? If I were her, I wouldn't waste the energy.
2006-11-30 18:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed too. You shouldn't be writing letters to other women if you are married. I think you need to keep your focus COMPLETELY on your wife for a while. Once you are sure things are fine, wait a little longer. Then if you still need friends find another couple to hang out with. Then you can hang out with the guy, and she can have girl time. But she is not Ever going to be fond of you writing letters to other women.
2006-11-30 18:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be jelouis aint a good thing. I mean being jelouis is o.k. but there has to be a point. If you love your wife like you sound why do you want to write another woman? That would really piss me off also if my husband did that. Why can't you and your wife have friends together like another married couple. I don't think it is right a married man has single women as friends. That does led into TROUBLE. and it just aint right. When you said I do it was to her and that you would be faithful. Stop writting other women. If you want to write hell write your wife I am sure she would enjoy that.
2006-11-30 18:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point you can not screw up anything else. You have to build the trust again and that comes with time. Basically cater to her and show her how much you love her. Cut all the other crap for awhile if she means anything to you. I mean if she is worth keeping and having.
2006-11-30 18:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by kaitlin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so hard to deal with it
u can never change a person who has that nature...
try to explain that all those stuff and doings are for 'friends' only
but it think it will make a thousand explainations and at the end of it u will still received no for an answer.
2006-11-30 18:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by judy abott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better no write too much letters to girls.
2006-11-30 18:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice for awhile is ..to stay off that computer for awhile! if your not on the computer...she will have no way to distrust you.
2006-11-30 18:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more careful. and shower her with love
2006-11-30 18:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by jaded_blueone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋