how do I forget him?

Question

i'd like to hear some superbly original replies because this hurts

thank you

Answer 1

Try remembering his faults.

Answer 2

have a friend do this. it works wonders.
first off a little theory behind it.
you have been with him awhile and have done things with him. So things you see remind you of him. This is called charge. you see a picture and the energy of your mememries are brought forword when you look at things that remind you of him. this will reduce that charge
have your friend ask you these questions in this order.

look around the room and find something that does not remind you of "his name here"
you friend should acknowlege ever time you do this. the anwser does not matter as long as it is something that does not remind you of him. this gets your attantion off of him and you will be free of him very shortly.
I recommend you do this for about 30 minutes a day tell you state "I am over him" Remember it will get worse before it gets better. So if it starts getting worse you are on the right track push through until you are over him

hope this helps
-David-

Answer 3

Forgive him for his shortcomings. Some of them he can't help, but most of them he chosses not to, or simply doesn't realize them.

Forgive yourself for not being the one who will change him or show him the way. No one can. It would be foolish and self-defeating to try to. Forgive yourself for allowing his actions to have such a profound effect on your emotions.

Thank him (in your mind). Thank him for teaching you more about yourself. Each encounter teaches you more about what you want, what you require from someone, and what you will not accept from someone. Thak him for that valuable experience. "Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs to find that prince" ever heard that one?

Move on with your newfound wisdom but leave any and all baggage behind. Carrying it with you will contamnate all future relationships. Not all guys are like he was, so it would be silly to assume that, and hold them responsible. Thay would be like asking them to carry your baggage, which no one else wants to do.

Take responsibility for your own feelings. No one else wants the job. Besides, it's yours and yours alone. When you think about it, you essentially choose how to feel.

All peoples' feelings are legitimate. Even ones that we disagree with or don't understand. But we also muct realize the our feelings are based on our perceptions, which in turn are influenced by our past experiences.

And we need to understand that our perceptions do not equal the intentions of others. Someone who appears to be staring you down may simply be trying to read the sign behind your head.

We all fear rejection. We all want the approval of others. When we get rejected, sometimes we take it personally, and we think we lack their approval. Sometimes we place too much importance on others' approval, and let it determine our own self-esteem. This is also self-defeating, since you can't please everyone. If you apply for a job that doesn't hire you, you are not a loser. They may have had more qualified applicants, or the job had been filled already.

Be happy that you found out what his true colors were. Be happy that he didn't stick around and try to change or control you. He gave you your freedom and a few lessons learned. J

ust find some satisfaction that he wil become somebody else's problem now, and that he might get dumped by someone that knows they can do better than him. You should already know that you can do better than him.....

Cheer up honey, there's thousands of potential "mr. right's" out there just waiting and hoping for you to notice them. The best ones will give you their time and attention, withour trying to convonce you to like them. They will let you do that all on your own. Do not overlook these guys!

Go to tangomagazine online and look at some dating behaviors and tips and their articles. It will make you feel better to learn more abour dating behaviors.

Keep dating lots of guys. That way when you find the right one, at the right time in your life, he will know that he can trust you because out of all you have tried and returned, you picked HIM!

Make no mistake about this: In the animal kingdom, it is the female who chooses the mate. Don't let any guy make you feel like he is ths chooser. Let him think that, but do not let yourself actually believe it too.

Answer 4

Our mind is like a machine which processes only one job at a time.
SO keep yourself extremely Busy..... Be a workaholic for sometime...
Then Start something to feel good about yourself, do some creative work.. Start helping the needy, the elderly....
Don't be alone... Keep yourself surrounded by friends.....

If you know to play chess, that'll be a boon.. Although I harly think you'll be able to do that

Lastly.... Give it sometime. Time is the best medicine. I m talking from experience...... Maybe you'll not be able to forget. But it'll cease to bother you.... AT the max a month...

Answer 5

Don't forget him but don't let him tear you down. be happy with what you have and just look back on all the good things in life. Guys aren't the most Important thing in the world.Yea sure they help us through but they also can brake your heart so just remember the good times and bring your life forward not back.

Answer 6

First, you have to take away things that remind you of him. Then, you need to surround yourself with friends and close family. You should remember his wrong doings, and why he made you hurt. Have fun, and think of things you couldn't do before but you can do now without him. Live life to the fullest, and don't look back.

Answer 7

Sorry your not going to.. at least anyime soon! Its gonna be with you forever even if you think i'll forget but you see hiim and the memory triggers.. just give it some time..! good luck!

Answer 8

you dont forget him...instead of crying over what u had and how much it hurts...u laugh over the wonderful memories he left you and the joy he brought you when he was around :-D

good luck!

Answer 9

You dont forgive him.