ive known my friend sinced i was six years old i am now 40 her husband has just left her and shes on prozac yet she phones him and asks himn to go round to talk to her as shes bits, :??
2006-11-30 10:09:27 · 32 answers · asked by timmie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont let him go on his own...;
2006-11-30 10:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she's not a real friend to put you in this situation. It seems she's needing a bit of male attention because her self-esteem has taken a bit of a bashing. There is nothing wrong with that in itslelf but the man she's using is your husband, the husband of one of her oldest friends. She is obviously going through a very rough time but you need to sit down and have a calm and rational word with the two of them otherwise you could lose a marriage and a friendship.
2006-11-30 10:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that her husband has just left her that is why she is calling your husband.
Even though she is feeling sad and depressed it gives her no right to go around and call your husband and your husband should not be going to her place alone.
She is unhappy and now she wants you to be unhappy by ruining your relationship.
You better talk to your husband and her about this as it is making you unhappy and a true friend will no go out of her way to upset you. We all have our bad times but not all of us uses our best friend's boyfriend or husband to get over it.
2006-11-30 10:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Zee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is well --different--you say she is YOUR best friend--so I am guessing that she is also friends with your husband too--but why isn't she calling you when she needs to talk?? I think I would maybe ask your husband to be kind when she calls but to tell her that he is not available to go BUT that you are and he can have you come by to help her--tell your husband that it makes you feel uncomfortable that he goes over there alone and ask him to not go or to take you along
2006-11-30 10:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes on the rebound and needs a man to show her she is still desirable, be careful, but think of her nature, would she really sleep with her friends husband? if you think she would then when your man comes home look out for the following signs: he won't want to sleep with you, too tired from the first encounter plus he'd be feelin' guilty and confused, he'll be temperamental and arrogant, and possibly very edgy and think you know what he's done, so look out for phrases like "what don't you trust me" or "what are you trying to say". But trust him, he may feel obliged to take care of your friend in her time of need.
2006-11-30 10:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friend why? not us. If she is a true friend you need to be there in her time of need instead of sitting on the pc posing question like this one because we really are the wrong people to answer tthat question. Only you husband and your friend will be able to answer your question.
All you wil get on here is opinions and some stupid responses.
2006-11-30 10:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by wandera1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the answer is to go with him and see for yourself, no way would my husband go around a friends house who is as vunerable as she is right now. What do you think he is doing round there, a shoulder to cry on.?.
2006-11-30 10:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Tell you husband not to go to your friend's house because it is totally INAPPROPRIATE. You are the best friend, not him. And that best friend of yours better stop flirting with your husband. Perhaps you should talk to her and ask her why he needs to call your husband. She's not a true friend.
2006-11-30 10:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Cool Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she phoning her husband or yours? If she's phoning yours invite her round to your house to discuss the problem, don't let your husband go to her house alone!! If he starts feeling sorry for her you don't know where it might lead. If she's at your house you can control the situation.
2006-11-30 10:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by Shyla326 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend if that is what she really is has no business calling your husband over. A best friend would never do that.
Go with him and tell her where to go.
Then after that is done have a straight forward talk with him.
2006-11-30 10:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a serious talk with your friend and your husband!!!!
Don`t take this, its not right and if your husband had any respect for you he would tell your so called friend to leave him alone.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 09:18:08 · answer #11 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋