my 15 yo son gets home from skool at like 5:30 and logs into myspace from 6 to 11 on weekdays! and hes on tht site practically all day on the weekends. do any of kids spend that much time on there? and what's on tht site tht can keep him occupied for that long?
2006-11-30 10:00:34 · 49 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
hes taking honers and AP classes so hes still is able to do his homework.and he doesnt get out of school until 5:30 bc he basketball practice
2006-11-30 10:11:24 · update #1
i dont even know how you can stay on that for more than like 10 mins. just set up a concealed camera behind the computer and see what he's up to i guess..
2006-11-30 10:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Zhukov 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 16 myself. I had a myspace up until about 6 months ago. Like you said...I would come home and log onto the computer and be on the site until 2 in the morning.
In retrospect...I don't know what the appeal was, but the site is very addiction. But the reason that I deleted my myspace was because a friend of mine was stalked and raped as a result of her page on that website.
She met a guy on the site and they would talk online. She never agreed to meet him but where I live there is a popular place where us kids hang out on Friday nights. The guy managed to find her and followed her home.
The next weekend when she went back to the center to hang out with her friends the guy found her. When they walked away together he raped him.
The site is a horrible place for kids.
2006-11-30 10:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely do not want him online that much, tell him he may only use the computer for a set amount of time a day. He can either log in and use it all at once, or break it up.
A lot of things are on My Space. SOme are perfectly innocent...emailing to friends, listening to music, "meeting" people with similar interests. SOme of the things are not so innocent. My Space has had issues with adult content, teens posting inappropriate photos or blogs and adult predators. In short, it is a lot like any other site on the net where large numbers of people congregate. If you want to know what he is doing, ask him to SHOW you his page. He will most likely refuse, saying it is full of private and personal things. I would point out to him that MY Space is far from private and that many possible employers and COLLEGES look on My Space as part of the admissions and hiring process. Tell him you will not read his emails, but that you want to see what he has been doing as far as images and posting personal information. YOu will also get to see the "messages" posted by his friends and the list of "friends" he has. If you see anything that concerns you, tell him. In the end, the use of the computer for anything other than school is a privelage. If you are not comfortable with what he is doing or have found him to be engaged in dangerous online behaviors, the resposibility to end them and control the computer access is yours.
I have my own My Space page. I did this to after my 18 yr old opened a page and I found out she was posting some pictures that were totally inappropriate. She was also giving off personal information about the family that could have compromised her safety as well as her father's job. She and I sat down and re-did her page together. We moved her profile to "private" so only people she invites can visit. SHe is not allowed to talk to anyone she has met online unless I know about it and am in the vicinity. If she and the person want to meet to hang out, I insist on contact information for the other person, take her to the meet and stay within visual range the entire time. The few who may have harbored "wicked" thoughts have been put off by these rules and the two people she has met have turned out to be great kids, with super families. My 12 year old would love a page but, aside from the fact she is too young by the site's standards, I refuse to allow her that sort of net freedom until she is signifigantly older.
I wish you luck with your son. Stay firm and remember...the net can be unplugged and the computer can get moved into the living room!!
2006-11-30 11:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that he needs to get his homework done and stop worrying so much about MySpace. Myspace is not going to further his education and help him get a diploma. The fact of the matter is that there is nothing really important on Myspace (just a bunch of people posting up dirty pictures of themselves). I would set a limit for him, only allow one hour (possibly and hour and a half) of Myspace a day. He can go on it all he wants on the weekends, but school should come first.
2006-11-30 10:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by LadySingsTheBlues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 16 and i have a myspace too but im not on there for that long thats just way to much time going to waste..ill go on for like 30 minutes or so maybe an 1:30 at most but from 6-11 wow thats a lot of time..i use it to meet up with old friends and talk to some new ones i wonder what he does on there maybe looking up girls i dont know what to tell you ask him about it even though i doubt he'll tell you its worth a try...good luck
2006-11-30 10:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go and spend some time with your child and see what he is doing on Myspace. Ask him about how it works and who he has meet? Maybe get him to help you set up a page too. Then get him to spend some time away from the computer.
The closer kids are to their parents the less likely they will become someone Elses victim.
Show an interest in him.
2006-11-30 10:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is more or less normal. I am a high school teacher and have three children of my own, aged 17, 15 and 12 years.
As for the content of the site, most of it is safe. There is a little innapropriate material, but nothing that your son is not exposed to at school. myspace is more or less an extension of school's social scene.
2006-11-30 10:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Pirahã 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lonely, and it is a chance to talk to others. But be a mom, put your foot down. He has Homework Right? His grades and physical fitness will drop if he keeps doing this. Right? So you have to take charge. Require him to turn it off for so many hours, and play, meet others in person, do his homework, household chores. He has to be well rounded. Also make sure he hasn't met a predator on myspace. Go check.
2006-11-30 10:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he's 15 and a guy. Probly doesn't like socializing with family that much. Tho, that's a LOT of time to be on myspace. He's probly talking to his friends, posting bullitens, could even be looking at girls. I've seen some girl's profiles that has pics of them in their underwear in teasing posistions. It's very unhealthy for anyone to be on the computer that long. I suguest limiting his computer time. He'll be mad about it, but it's for his own good. Incourage him to hang out with his friends. You want him off of this computer. Offer to drive him places or give him practice driving (if he has his permit). I'm not trying to tell you how to raise your son or tell you what's best for him. If you think that him sitting at his computer all day is best for him then let him. I'm really not trying to tell you how to raise your son. I'm only telling you my imput and throwing out sugestions.
2006-11-30 10:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just have an attention span for websites like that, it's fairly common for teenagers and young people to be "addicted" to myspace. It's basically just a website to interact with others, you can set up a profile about yourself, decorate it, include info, etc, so there's plenty to keep you busy!
2006-11-30 10:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by az270890 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On MySpace, you can message back and forth to friends, there are video clips of comedians and bands. If I had the time, I could stay on there longer but I have two kids. Its a neat way to stay in touch with people (I found people I went to elementary school with). If you're so worried about it, ask him about it or limit his time on there.
2006-11-30 10:06:07 · answer #11 · answered by BlairBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋