PORN!! How far can it go before it gets out of hand?

Question

Okay, for starters i have no problem watching it with my partner, we are very open with eachother and are not shy about trying things out.

My boyfriend has always loved watching it, i didnt like it at first but have got used to it now.

However, i have come across some extreme hard porn, to the point where it makes me feel very uncomfortable to watch it. My man however gets a great buzz.

Im talking about woman doing the deepthroat to the point where she has tears streaming down her face and looks like shes in soooo much pain she can hardly breathe.

Sex acts where theres like 10 men to 1 woman (yes 10 men)

Theres been some scenes were the women look terrified and are almost being raped, this just turns my man on even more.

How that can turn any1 on amazes me!

Men, why would scenes like that turn you on?

I find it a little disturbing that he could watch this, am i being over the top, is it normal?

Can porn really go too far?

Thanks for all your thoughts!

Answer 1

Porn is so bad for relationships, it gives men the wrong impression of women, then they have certain expectations that they will probably never get (unless they date a s l u t).

Answer 2

Like all things there is a point where it stops being fun and starts being embarassing or makes you throw up.
Clearly some porn is genuine rape, some genuine rape and murder, most times the whole crew do very well out of a few hours work, but when you get outside the EU or US there is clearly some very distasteful stuff out there.
I have a horrible feeling it is the impression that all women are just dying for sex, that the initial resistance crumbles as their bodys natural instincts take over, the sort of soft porn end that is harmful, unless someone actually ends up dead or HIV in making the film

Answer 3

If it disgusts you then you should turn it off. In fact, your best bet is simply to not bother to watch such useless wastes of media. Porn can and already has gone way too far and people who watch it or rent it simply feed into the sickness by allowing it to be continued through their support. What you and your partner do in your own house is of course between the two of you, and if you feel comfortable with trying new things then you should continue to do so. But I would suggest something less graphic. Perhaps a book or magazine, or go shop in an adults only store for ideas.

Answer 4

Since this is disturbing to you, inform him about it; if he does not respond to your feelings by toning down on the subject, then obviously, he cares more about watching porn than he does about your relationship, at which point, you should kick him to the curb! So there. Good luck with this weirdo. Personally, I think that someone turned on by brutal rape is not someone that I would want in my bed, because someday, he'll do it for real. I recall seeing on the news more than once, when police catch some murderers, there were interviews with the friends and relatives of the accused. Some had perceived the killers as really nice people, but some had reported that they thought they were a little off when they saw "Johnny" as a child, pulling wings off of flies and trying to set the cat on fire. Then they grew up and applied this treatment to people. So something like that could fall into the same category, and evolve into an enactment that becomes reality. So for your own safety, I'd tell the perv to get counselling or to hit the road. I don't know why you'd want to stay with this nut; surely, you can do better...

Answer 5

Pornography has existed for a very long time.If a person wanted some fetish stlye porn they needed to search it out.The internet has fuelled the porn industry and is now responsible for some of the most extreme scenes in existence.The abuse of women, and total lack of respect is abhorrent,and this sadly is the garbage that teenage boys have access to.What kind of mentality is being developed in these people? I dont mind prnography,however the virulent marketing of it is utterly despicable.You cant turn your computer on without being bombarded by tons of ads.It can get much worse.

Answer 6

I've been around some of that extreme hard core porn myself, and the man I was seeing at the time just couldn't seem to understand how I could possibly hate it. (He got turned on by that God-awful stuff too.) I hated it because it was demeaning to women, for starters. Secondly, it was glorifying what basically amounted to gang rape. I couldn't trust that man after having seen him enjoying those abominations. I feared it was only a matter of time before he and his buddies might actually try it in real life(maybe on me??). That right there is the point at which porn goes too far- when men get turned on by those horrid acts. I don't feel you are full of it by any means.

Answer 7

Porn is really really bad for 2 people who are in a relationship. I had the opposite problem, my ex loved it, I didn't, it eventually broke us up, as she was more turned on by the porn than our sex life, now from what I hear she can only "get off" on porn, chuck it out, it won't do your relationship the least bit of good. And coming from a man - its demeaning to women!

Answer 8

I'm pretty sure anything you see on tape has been scripted and that the directors have interviewed these women to see what each of them can do and is willing to do (Money, especially with a single number with a lot of zeros next to it, will make almost any woman in porn, open up to things they never did sexually before). And as for as guys getting off to it, you should already be aware on how aggressive men are, especially the ones who have more testosterone than the next guy. (yours truly, included) Without hurting women, of course, we love the fantasy of getting really physical and doing things in porn we love to do with the women we're with, but it's up to the individual partners to discuss.

Answer 9

yes porn can go far too far but the producers know too well that people will buy it, Mary whitehouse was a jerk but society needs some form of censorship imposing on it for moral values at least.
I personally know a porn baron and the films he sell which are 100% legal seem to be in my opinion well out of f**king order and are available to anyone 18+ thus proving to myself that society as a whole is going right down the moral drain. on the other side of the scale you can't beat a good clean porno and a little imagination. I am 34 years old and I find todays porn is a little bit screwed up (no pun intended). anyway I'm going adult entertainment surfing any time now and the hand cream is warming by the fire. wish me luck.... I'm going in.
I almost forgot to mention that my ex wanted to be a porn star and I found her behaviour seriously bloody weird hence the reason I dumped her, she is one of them sickos.

Answer 10

Sounds more like a power trip to me. Guys being in power, and the woman powerless to stop him/them, it's a turn on to lots of guys. Just ask Donald Trump or Dick Cheney. Sure it can go too far, and there are underground S&M type movies out there that prove it. I'd say your boyfriend feels somewhat powerless or insecure if that sort of thing is a real turn-on to him. About what, I don't know. But he needs to feel in control, I guess. Maybe you should try some bondage and let him control things. Just a suggestion.

Answer 11

I totally agree with you. Porn can go too far in the extremes. I also watch porn with my partner and have no problems watching it. But i cannot and will not advocate violent sex such as sadism and masochism, gang bangs, anal sex, beastiality or even deep throating.

My partner bought a dvd a couple of years back not knowing how graphic the material was going to be. Some of it was fine, but at the end the movie got WAY out of hand. There were 3 women in a closed off factory doing at least 10-15 guys EACH. 45 men roughly in one room to 3 women! The worst bit was one of the women was dragged down a flight of stairs by her hair and she was totally off her face to the point where she actually enjoyed the pain.

I was in absolute tears from watching it and my partner turned it off. Your partner may enjoy these types of things, but mine didnt enjoy it at all. We did keep the DVD but it now sits in the back of the wardrobe wear it belongs andi dont watch much soft stuff anymore either. I dont mind letting my partner watch some now and then, as long as i can either join in (if the material is appropriate) or i at least know that he is watching it.

That dvd really opened my mind to the porn industry and how it affects every single person out there. Every woman or young lady that you see on that screen is someone else's daughter - i automatically think....how would their parents like it for me to watch their daughter degrade herself?

That is what refrains me from watching porn now.