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Question

Hi, I'm 18 years old and I'm gay. I have been battling whether to tell my parents or not. What should I do? And to tell them how and y? and not to tell them, why not? Your answer will be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

It depends on your situation. How do you think they will react? Are you financially dependent on them? What will you do if they react badly and, since your are 18, kick you out?

On the other hand, it can be hard on you to try to keep a part of yourself secret and always worrying about letting something slip. It is usually beneficial to be honest and to come out, but like I said it depends on your situation.

You may want to check out the organization PFLAG for some tips on coming out. Good Luck!

Answer 2

That is a tough one. I am not gay but I understand the challenge. You seem pretty strong to me to come out like this. To tell you the truth if they cannot accept you for what you really are then thats their problem, not yours. If you think they will freak out and take your college money be smart and stay quiet.
I live here in SF and some of the best,kindest people I know are gay. So What!!!!

I wish you the best.

Bill

Answer 3

Would you be embarrassed to tell your parents that you are left handed? Of course not.

Most people are right handed. However, you have nothing to be ashamed of if you are left handed, or ambidextrous.

Well, you have nothing to be ashamed of because you are homosexual.

You might try to explain this information to your parents.

The biggest myth of our religious history is that God considers all homosexuality a sin. The original Bible text said no such thing. However, in 1611 when the Bible was translated into English for the first time, the selfish religious leaders put pressure on the translators to re-word the original text. The original text read something like "a married man should not spend sexual time with another man because it would cause disharmony with his wife.

If you have a Jewish friend, have him read you the original Hebrew text. (If you e-mail me, I will send you the exact language of the original Bible text and texts on this issue.)


Why did these religious leaders deliberately change the Bible? Why did they change the wording to condemn all homosexuality? Answer: To grow their empire they encouraged their members to propogate large families so that their children would join and grow that particular religious empire. They discouraged/ condemned homosexuality because it would yield no new members (children) to their selfish empires.

But remember this:

Harmony is harmony.

Disharmony is the only sin against God.

Answer 4

If you find this to be a compelling internal truth which you cannot ignore then you will have to address it to your parents in language they can understand.
The human journey is all about the exploration of personal truth but we must respect our limitations even with respect to a true understanding of our own nature. Be cautious with your conclusions and don't act on every impulse. The truth is a process.
Find friendship and sit with it till you are sure you want it to be more than that realising that you are making a choice which will impact the rest of your life and one which will upset your parents.
Just be gentle and kind to them and to yourself and remember your challenge in life is to grow in love and that this is not necessarily consistent with the exploration of your sexuality, although it may of necessity be so.
The choice is yours but exercise it with prudence and diplomacy. It is not true to say that there is an equivalence between hetero and homosexuality; the fact is the former is the more desirable sexual persuasion both from a biological and social perspective; however it is clearly not the only experience of sexuality and homosexuality finds its legitimacy in the reality of human diversity and our compelling need for relationship and love.
Good luck and may God go with you.

Answer 5

This may sound corny, but only YOU will know when it's right, or IF it's right. Some relationships (relatives) simply cannot withstand any sort of blow; others are strong and resilient. So without knowing what category you fall into, I would say to see yourself through your parents' eyes, and try to envision what their reaction would be. Some come to accept the news over time. Good luck.

Answer 6

I have an uncle who came out and told us all last year.. i hate to say this but it won't be easy and people will get upset.. but they will come to terms with it.. and things will be ok at some point.. My best friend is gay and everything went well for him.. his mom and dad took it well.. so depends really.. i wish you luck sweetie..

Answer 7

Find the right atmosphere with your parents
and then just sit with them and in the conver-
sation tell them that you are gay. Don't be
ashamed of who you are and that will give you
the courage to express yourself to ur parents.

Answer 8

aww...I remember when I was 18 and came out...I wasnt planning on telling them...but they found out (long story)...it was hard at first...but after a while theyve gotten used to it...my mom doesnt talk about it much...but she loves me anyway and that's all that counts....

...just be honest with them and tell them at a time when you feel the most comfortable...be strong! good luck man!!

Answer 9

reguardless what ur mom or dad says u r the 1 who controls ur life and u should be happy to be gay.. they cant beat u or ***** at u for being the way u r... they will accept your ways.. trust me u are just like everyone else.

Answer 10

I think it all depends upon how open your parents are to this ~ I would sit them down and just explain your feelings to them. They are your parents and we love our kids unconditionally! Good luck