do you think im,e to old t have another child?

Question

im,e 36 and have grow up children, but i got married this year to ny long term partner of 17 years,my eldist son is 20 on the 12th of this month,his dad died when he was one,it was suicide and i dont mind talking about it now, things are different now but i wpuld love t chat t some one who has bin threw the same thing, i can,t be the only one

Answer 1

Corrrrrrrrr no you are definitely not too old to have a child, you have been though hell and it would be nice to experience a baby with a partner present for every milestone.......its different having a step father to a real father with a baby, people say it isn't but it definitely is, go for it..........

I haven't been in the same situation but I hope someone on here can help

Good luck xx

Answer 2

Although there are more risks involved in pregnancy as you get older, it is still physically viable to have more children. If you and your new husband feel it is the right thing to do then you should go for it. Sounds like you had abit of a rough time of it there for a while but you sound like you're ready to move on and this is the next natural and logical step for your and your new hubby. I haven't been through what you have but life is too short to live in the past and it sounds as though you have made a positive decision to move on into the future with your new man and I wish you all the luck in the world. By the way, 36 isn't old (at least I don't think so anyway!) You have plenty of youth in you yet and you and your husband should enjoy yourselves and get cracking on those babies!!! Good luck :)

Answer 3

According to some doctors, you may be more at risk than what you would have been back in your twenties but that's no reason not to have a child at 36. You are still able to have a healthy and happy baby right now. You just need to be sure to see your obstetrician as much as possible to make sure the pregnancy is a healthy one. Be sure to eat right and stay stress-free and everything will be beautiful. Good luck with the new edition to your family.

Answer 4

Your present husband has been a father to your son for 17 years. So my answer to you is, yes have another child if you can. You have obviously not totally recovered from the trauma of losing your first husband. The death of a loved one in any circumstance is devastating. However you must put the past to sleep. Concentrate on your efforts to become pregnant and every good wish to you, your husband and son.

Answer 5

You're only 36, hon. If you want another child and so does your husband, than get trying! You had your son when you were very young, and now that your life is different, there is nothing wrong with wanting another. My aunt had her last child when she was 39, so good luck!

Answer 6

36 is definitely not too old, as long as your partner is keen to have a baby. I'm sure your grown up kids might be a bit surprised but they would love the baby to bits!

Good luck to you!

Answer 7

for a 36 years old, it's still ok but don't wait to long. It could be dangerous either for you or for the baby if you wait a couple of years more. If you want to be safe, consult a doctor. He or she might give you more advices.

Answer 8

Your not to old if that is what you both want, you can both enjoy your child growing up plus having the added benifit of being more mature, understanding your childs needs and being able to spend more time with them. My ex wifes mum was 40 when she had her, she said she had no problems with it plus she was an only child. So if you feel its right go for it :)

Answer 9

Your not too old to have children. Just make sure that you are ready to go through the 2 hour late night feedings again, the diaper changes, the crying at night etc etc

Answer 10

Not yet but don't wait too much longer. I was a Dad for the first time at 40. Best thing to happen to me.