should i take it slow??? serious answer plz!!!?

Question

i was dating this guy everything was good. i called him one day and he didnt answer my phone calls or my text messages. so i quit talking to him for about a week. this morning he text me and i was talking to him and he told me that he wants to take it slow!!!! what does it mean!!! he wants to hang out this weekend do u guys think that i should hang out with him????

Answer 1

Yes, you should take it slow because HE suggested it.

My friend spent an agonizing 18 months after the guy she was really crazy about told her he wanted to take it slow and she didn't. He finally told her he was NOT into her the way she was into him. I even asked a question about it and the consensus was the same - he was not into her the way she wanted him to be and she needed to let go.

I'm not telling YOU to let go. But do pay attention to him and perhaps you can talk to him to find out what he means by taking it slow. He may tell you that he is not ready for a committed relationship and just wants to be friends. At least you will know what he has in mind. This will help eliminate "dodging" (if that is what he's doing) your text messages and phone calls. The guy my friend liked did the exact same thing to her. Guys sometimes have a hard time communicating their feelings. So you have to kind of ask so that YOU have a clear idea of what he is looking for from you.

If he wants you to hang out with him with the guys this weekend, ask him - see what he says. Once you've cleared the air about the "taking it slow," it might be just fine. :)

Answer 2

I dont think its cool for him to just cut you off with no explanation. It sounds as if he was waiting for another oppurtunity (girl) and that fell through and now he wants a shot with you again. Either that or he has been hurt really bad in the past and gets very nervous when he feels more then he wants to that early on.

I say give him another shot if he has a good reason for skipping out for a week. You never know, could be a really good reason why he did.

Best of luck! :)

Answer 3

Honestly, no--but I kind of think you'll do it anyway. "Go slow" means one thing (and it can be a good thing) when he stays in touch with you and answers your calls. But with the behavior you describe, "go slow" probably means he wants you around so he won't be lonely, but he's hoping someone else comes along. I say "probably" because no one can answer your questions for sure from a distance like this.

But millions of us know the feelings. It's tough when you want someone and they don't respond like you want them to. But what that really means is he isn't the right one for you. The right one will come along, but you have to be patient (I know how much NO ONE wants to hear this.)

Since I think you'll hang out with him anyway: be cool. Be smart. Don't be nasty or cold. But be like a friend, not needy or clingy. Think of him as Mr. Right Now--someone to have fun with this weekend, but that's all. If he stands you up--don't see him again. You'll find someone who cares about you and treats you with respect if that's what you expect and require. And until then, to tell you more of what you don't want to hear, find other things to take up your time and energy.

Just so you'll know who's saying this: I'm sure you'd think I'm really old. Old enough to be married more than 30 years. But I remember the pain, and it really is a pain, of wanting someone, or wanting anyone. It's so unfair for old people like me to tell the young that these are the best years of your life. In a lot of ways that isn't true. I wouldn't want to go through all that again, but you'll get through it and things will get better and better for you. (Especially if you listen to wise old birds like me!) Good luck, honey!

Answer 4

He has other things on his mind. Whether it's other girls or just hanging out with the guys.It sounds like he wants his freedom and doesn't want to be tied down to just one girl. Do yourself a favour and keep busy going places and doing things without involving him.Maybe he likes you as a friend not a lover. Give him his space and see what he does. Carry on with your life and have fun. Cocoa

Answer 5

yea sure i mean ask him this weekend and just say ur wondering
maybe smthing happd 2 his friend
but if he wont tell u then maybe theres smthng up tht hes keepin a secret
tell him tht if he doesnt trust u then maybe u shldnt be togteher
no use having a bf tht is gng 2 not really say anythng 2 u

Answer 6

Hell no!

Forget that guy! Hes a looser. You called him b/c you actually cared. Hes an idiot for not talking to you everyday. The way i see it you are pretty happening girl to actually waste your time on calling him! Hes suppose to want to ALWAZ talk with you no matter what.

Again, simply dump him, and forget him. He said take it slow? HA thats funny. Be true to yourself, YOU know what to do.

-James

Answer 7

It means that he's interested in another girl, and your getting the short end of the stick right now, hang out with him only if you like to be used

Answer 8

Maybe your were smothering him before that and he didnt like it... he probably stopped talking to you and realized that maybe he does like you and things should just go slower. I think that if you like this guy, you should go out with him, but I dont know if you already have but if you want something serious with a guy keep your legs closed.. good luck to you..

Answer 9

Yes. It sounds a little weird he didn't call you for a week. Just make sure he is not seeing someone else or has a gf.

Answer 10

it mean he gotten what he wants from you and now it time to take it slow, so slowly get your but lost. can't you take a hint, boy you are slow.