How to make an untidy person into a neat and tidy person.?

Question

My husband is very untidy , for 7 years I put up with his untidyness , how can I make him become a neat and tidy person?Any suggestions?

Answer 1

He was probably that way before you married him. Should have thought about it then.

Answer 2

i might want to love a sparkling, tidy abode, yet with 2 little ones it style of feels just about no longer accessible. they could empty out a cabinet in the time it takes me to teach round and understand what they're doing. I save the kitchen sparkling universal (no longer continuously tidy inspite of the actuality that), and attempt to do a load of washing universal. the lavatory receives a sparkling about once a week. The flooring truly choose a sweep or vacuum each and every 2d day, yet that usually doesn't get finished. I truly have a huge load of ironing that needs doing, yet that would want to attend until eventually I sit all the way down to computer screen television. i truly hate house responsibilities, and am heavily thinking quitting!

Answer 3

This sounds familiar as my husband is the same way. However, there is no way to "change" another person. My suggestion is to choose the two things you find most irritating and discuss it with him calmly and lovingly. Say "I find it very irritating and annoying when . . . you don't pick up your clothes, or wipe up the counter in the kitchen, etc." Don't be angry and make sure it doesn't come out accusatory, which will just start an argument. You might also try the "it would really help me alot if you picked up your clothes, wiped the counter, etc" approach. Men respond better sometimes to a plea for help! :)

Answer 4

So was he untidy before you met him? In order to do something like this you must convince him there is something wrong with untidyness. This is more difficult than it sounds. Your reasons for wanting to be tidy, might not be reasons enough for him to want to be tidy. You could nag him a whole bunch, but then and in most cases he might tidy up only when you nag. Get him to want it to be tidy. Give reasons for "him" to want to be tidy. Ask him why its not important to him.

Answer 5

Watch the movie: The Egg and I - then Ma and Pa Kettle, take a tip from Ma "Pa wasn't getting any neater and my yellin wasn't helpin so I just got messier and we've been happier ever since." You have "put up with his messiness" but have you ever tried to compromise? Try to reach a happy medium and you will both be happier. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I don't think there is anything you can do. Some people are not wired to care about neatness. Compromise. Let him have his mess in certain areas and you have your neatness in certain areas. Don't allow his mess to bleed into your neat places. Put your foot down and tell him how rude and disrespectful it is for him to purposely upset you with his slobishness.

Answer 7

Tidy as in looks or his environment?
If its looks then tell him to gte a haircut, shave, shower, wear decent clothes lol

If ur talkin about his acts then be like, "Im sick of cleaning ur SH&*&*!! Can U pleasseeee tidy up and change the way u act!! grow up!!!"

Idk... I think i answered this question wrong

Answer 8

Sadly, I just don't think you can. My EX was a slob, I was married to him for 13 years..he never did change. Now his current woman says he's still a slob..

Answer 9

HA.. when you find out let me know! lol

I wash and fold the clothes... I have left his piled on the dining room table, the couch, the bed etc HOPING he would take HIS clothes and put them away. NO.. he just digs through that pile till its gone. sigh.

clutter doesnt bother him... its just not important.

Answer 10

I wish I could help ... maybe try being as untidy as him ...see how he feels about it !